GOOD OLD DAYS 

Take me back to the good old days. Here I’m not talking about the beautiful memories of my past, but this incredible restaurant in effotel, situated right next to Radisson.



Tired of spending weekends in same kind of bars? Here’s a quirky alternative. Good Old Days’s theme speaks volumes. It’s a small retro themed bar lounge. Comfortable, Cosy, Elegant and Dramatic. Dim lights, checkered walls section, old Hollywood movies posters, red sofas, illuminated floor (tiles which light up with different colors!), mirror ceilings, and of course, posters of the likes of Merlin Monroe, Elvis Presley, Che Guevara & Bob Marley bringing the good old days back.



I would like to thank Chef Thapa who hails from Nepal and is associated with Sayaji since 4 years and Indore Bloggers Association for making this meet happen.

We were served –
FILO WRAPS  

Filo or Phyllo is very thin covering usually used in pastries and it dates back to Ottoman empire. We were served a vegetarian deep fried filo wrap which was actually wanton wraps, filled with cheese and three kinds of bell papers. It’s a vegetarian delight.
Another highlight of this dish was it’s dipping – saffron mayo sauce. It’s distinguished garlic flavor gave the dish a beautiful twist.

CHARMOULA CRUSTED COTTAGE CHEESE –




Another dish to please vegetarians palate. Chef has definitely succeeded. It’s cottage cheese served with herbed rice and sautéed vegetables like broccoli and zucchini.
Dish is medium spicy and it’s sauce take away the cake. It’s served with barbecue mango sauce which is definitely a must try here.
Also, presentation gets 5/5.

MEXICAN RED  KIDNEY BEANS AND CORN QUESADILLA  –


Pc – Satyajeet David



Quesadillas is one of my favorites and this place doesn’t disappoint. Flat circle grilled tortilla with a stuffing of red kidney beans and corn. It was served with salsa sauce made with minced tomatoes and perfectly complimented the dish. Here, I would also like to mention that they are smaller than regular size.

CRUMBLED FISH  – 

Fish is marinated with lemon, garlic and parsley, coated with breadcrumbs and deep fried. Its boneless fillets of basa fish and is a must try here.
RUBIYAN MESHAWAI  – 


Pc – Satyajeet David



I’ve a new favorite!! Them prawns ❤️

Medium prawns with tail, perfectly grilled in Arabic spices will leave you wanting for more and more. It’s beauty lies in its simple preparation. Prawns are marinated in garlic & black pepper. It’s served with risotto rice in tomato sauce and saffron dip which is rich in garlic and butter. It’s a must try here.

DRINKS –



COCKTAILS

MARTINI


“Shaken, not stirred!” – James Bond’s iconic drink, this Martini is a must try. Instead of gin, they have used vodka but I really can’t complain. Garnished with olives and a small umbrella, staying true to its classic colors.
STRAWBERRY MOJITO 

It’s a proper ladies drink. Not too subtle, not too strong. Mint and strawberry complimented each other & it’s a treat to the eyes.

MUDSLICE  –

The moment I heard about BAILEYS cocktail, I was waiting for its serving. It looks like chocolate coffee especially due to chocolate syrup lining the glass. Sadly, bailey’s flavor is diminished by coconut and chocolate flavors. Avoid.

GIMLET  –

Pc – Satyajeet David

I unfortunately didn’t try this gin based cocktail. There were two glasses amongst ten bloggers, what do you expect?


COSMOPOLITAN


One of the best cosmopolitan I’ve tried in this city. I order cocktails because hard core strong drinks are not my thing. The bartender has beautifully managed to keep it not too sweet and not too strong and I really don’t think you can go wrong with cranberry and vodka. Mama Mia. We have a winner here.


MOCKTAILS


SHIRLEY TEMPLE


Too sweet. Strawberry syrup with ginger and lime and of course the lemonade.
VIRGIN COLADA  


This was definitely my favorite mocktail. Creamy coconut drink with pineapple, with a tint of vanilla and pineapple. A must try here.

My ratings

Taste – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Presentation – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Drinks – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Service – ⭐️ ⭐️

Value for money – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Ambiance – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Overall – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Address: Effotel Hotel, Plot No. 10-C/ C.A., Scheme No. 94, Sector C Indore, Indore.

Open time: 1 pm to 11:30 pm

In the end, I just wanna say that this is a place to spend some quality time with your friends or lover over drinks. They usually play 90’s pop music in the background, adding to its theme. Seating arrangement is comfortable. I’m definitely gonna visit again & so should you.

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A pizza of my heart 

Warning – don’t read this blog on an empty stomach.

Before we start, I really want to say this – Every pizza me loves every pizza you.
(And then I wonder why I’m single Haha!!)

The word PIZZA is enough to make my stomach rumble in excitement, so when I was notified that a bloggers meet is being organized by IBA in association with Indori Zayka , at Ground Baking – you can imagine my reaction.

Groundbreaking – Groundbaking is a house turned cafe offering a casual & upbeat environment. Its bright yellow walls provide the perfect backdrop and wooden picnic tables just completes the ‘carefree’ look. Inner orange wall has beautiful hanging photographs, including one that says, “No drama, only pizza!” *wink wink*


Groundbaking serves classic new york style pizzas which grew out of Neapolitan style pizza when Italian immigrants brought pizza to NYC and America, in the early 1900s. It’s traditionally 18 inches but this place customized the size for its customers and offers a 12″, 16″ & 20″ pizza. New York style pizzas are large and wide with thin crust, golden brown with some occasional dark spots, easily foldable & yet maintaining its crisp.

We were served 5 different kinds of pizzas from their new gourmet menu. After having a slice from the third pizza, I realized it was “Mission: Impizzable,” but I couldn’t stop eating. Sorry for the pun, but there’s more to come. Oops, I did it again.

We were welcomed with freshly brewed Lemon Ice Tea. Usually, you can’t taste anything beyond sugar in an ice tea, but the chef changed my opinion. It’s tartness perfectly balances its sweetness. The zesty lemon flavor perfectly blends with bitter tea flavor, which is quite strong. Fair warning – It’s refreshing but it’s not too sweet (which I personally loved!) but if you don’t have a palate for tea, avoid this.

  • THIS PLACE DOESN’T SERVE TOMATO SAUCE TO MAINTAIN THE AUTHENTICITY OF A NEW YORK PIZZA. So if you’re one of those who can’t eat a pizza without sauce, this place is NOT FOR YOU. Although I do promise you one thing, you won’t be disappointed with this place.

Our first pizza was FIVE CHEESE PIZZA.
Who doesn’t love cheese? I Do. I know you do too! I literally had to tell myself, “Reva! Just eat one slice! There are 4 other pizzas for tasting too!’ Haha.
The five kinds of cheese that are being used in this are – Mozzarella + cheddar + Gouda + emmanthel + parmesan.

To help us understand the differences better, there was a mini cheese tasting too. I couldn’t have asked for anything more!

Cheddar, Emmanthel & Gouda are hard, Mozzarella is soft & Parmesan is even softer. Mozzarella is made from Italian buffalo milk, Cheddar, Gouda & Parmesan – cow milk, Feta – goat milk.

We also tasted the two essential pizza base sauces – Basil Pesto with Walnut sauce and the traditional Tomato sauce. I loved this pesto sauce.




The five cheese pizza had four flavorful cheese – emmanthel, mozzarella, gouda, & Cheddar on a thin crispy dough, and parmesan cheese on top as it’s really soft and shouldn’t be baked for a long time. Basil gave it a beautiful twist – bit spicy, bit sweet. A member of mint family, basil is considered herb of summer & now I know why. 

My verdict – I’ll give this five cheese pizza, a five-star rating.
We were then served – GREEK PIZZA.

After having a plain cheese pizza, this one was a fun surprise with unusual toppings. Pizzas are all about diversity, right? It had Walnuts, Spinach, Feta cheese, black olives, mozzarella, and artichokes. Feta cheese is salty and tangy, with dry and crumbly texture. The combination of spinach, Feta cheese, olives, artichokes, and Walnuts gives a taste sensation like never before. Although, I did find it a bit salty.

My verdict – good experiment, but not their best. You can pass.
Next came COUCH POTATO PIZZA.


It was served with two variants – with smoked paprika and without. The highlight of this pizza was the perfectly done balsamic reduction. Oven roasted rosemary potatoes with onions, Emmanthel and fennel made a mouthwatering dish. Just one taste and I knew I’ll finish the whole thing. 


Balsamic vinegar reduction amplifies the strong intense flavor of vinegar and it’s sweet flavor complements the salty dish. End result – I bet you won’t be able to stop eating. The one with smoked paprika, as you might have guessed, was spicy. It was like a flavor adventure in my mouth. This pizza has all kinds of sweet and spicy goodness.

My verdict – This is a winner. Do try. If you don’t like spicy, go for the normal version of this dish, which is also a bit on the sweeter side. There, sweet and spice – this dish have it all.
TRIO OF MUSHROOMS PIZZA – 

Mushrooms are a perfect substitute for non veg. After the first bite, I felt bliss. As the name suggests, it has three kinds of mushrooms – button, shitake & black fungus mushrooms, which were tossed in butter, olive oil and garlic. 


Black fungus mushrooms don’t have any flavor of its own and it absorbs the flavors of whatever it is cooked with. In this case, it had strong smokey flavors. The ricotta was prepared by the chef himself, in fact, he even shared its recipe with us.


Fair warning – this is an authentic mushroom pizza and you may not have a palate for it, think twice before ordering and I’ll suggest you ask the chef for suggestions.

My verdict – if you love mushrooms, don’t think twice before ordering it. There’s not mushroom for improvement. 

Bianco

To be honest, by the time this pizza was presented to us, I was stuffed. I didn’t even feel like eating a bite but then I saw rocket leaves as toppings and I convinced myself it’s a very healthy pizza and I should eat it Haha. Rocket leaves are very bitter, hence they were dressed in citrus vinaigrette. I could feel the cream cheese sauce in my mouth and the combination of button mushrooms, smoked paprika, cherry tomatoes and fennel is drool-worthy.

My verdict – It’s cheesy and it’s different. It’s light and it’s refreshing. Do try.
Well, there’s always some room for desserts. 

Creme brulee



Crème brûlée is a French dish and is also known as burnt cream, crema Catalana, or Trinity cream. It consists of a rich custard base topped with a contrasting layer of hard caramel. The highlight of this dish is the caramelization of the sugar with a butane torch right before it was served. 


It’s not heavy, but it’s certainly heavy in taste. I never thought I’ll say this, but I probably like this more than their Blueberry cheesecake, which is my favorite. It’s crunchy and it’s a delight. It’s caramelized topping is brittle & the custard beneath is smooth, and creamy, making it my current favorite dessert.

My verdict – try this right away!!!
Save the best for the last? 


The meeting ended with an epic celebration of indori zayka hitting the 100k milestone with cake cutting of three milk and berries cake. I couldn’t have asked for anything more.

Taste – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Ambiance – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ (the place is really small!)

Service – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Presentation – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Overall – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Pros – 

  • 100% VEGETARIAN PIZZERIA 
  • Authentic New York style pizza.
  • Taste is good.
  • Value for money.
  • Desserts are great too.
  • Location is just next to Indore’s Hotspot – Simi’s bakery. 
  • Freshly made pizzas.

Cons – 

  • Small place.
  • Seating is like a death warrant on a hot summer day.
  • No sauce policy, which many of you may not like.
  • Pizzas can be too authentic for indori palate, so ask before ordering.
  • No home delivery.

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TIMINGS : 11:30AM – 3:00 PM & 5:00 PM TO 11:00 PM

TUESDAYS OFF.

ADDRESS –

BG-293, SCHEME 54, ( two houses next to SIMI’S BAKERY) VIJAY NAGAR.
CONTACT – 0731 4912718

For any queries, you can email me at Revaparihar@gmail.com.

Till next time,

Xoxo.

Dal bafle at Vrindavan

What makke di roti, Sarson ka saag is to Punjab, is what Daal Bafla is to Malwa, M.P. It’s a variant of Dal Bati that is the staple food ofRajasthan. Bati is flaky round bread of wheat, traditionally baked in tandoor or Kandas (cow dung, especially in villages) or over an electric oven & dipped in ghee. Bafla is like Bati that is cooked in boiling water (like a dumpling) and then baked.

Given its taste, it’s not surprising that it’s fame has spread well beyond these states. It’s USP is in its earthy flavors.

Its history is quite fascinating. Did you know ‘Dal Bati,’ was a ‘war food?’ Its first mention was during the time of Bappa Rawal ‘ the founder of the kingdom of Mewar in Rajasthan. Soldiers used to break the wheat dough into chunks & bury it under thin layers of sand so that it can bake under the sun & when they returned, they would find perfectly baked wheat globes that were then dipped in ghee and served.

It was the official ‘wartime meal,’ as it can be made with few ingredients and very little water which wasn’t available readily in barren lands of Rajasthan. This culinary invention evolved into a delight with two other items ‘ Dal and Churma ‘ over the years.

You can not visit indore and not eat Dal Bafle. It’s our specialty.

It’s in our traditions and it’s lip-smacking good.
I along with fellow bloggers at Indore bloggers association & Indori Zayka was invited for a food tasting at a vegetarian restaurant called ‘Vrindavan,’ situated in Vijay Nagar, near prestige college.



Interiors –

The interiors of Vrindavan justifies its name. There are big Shri Krishna’s paintings that adorn its walls, and the carpet is green, giving an appearance of grass, together creating a peaceful and soothing environment.


To beat the heat, the place boasts huge misting fans that blows a fine mist of water into the air, which absorbs heat & thus working as an air cooler.

It has traditional sitting on the floor over mats, cross-legged dining, bringing today’s generation closer to it’s roots. The food was served in huge copper thals that were quite heavy giving a royal feel.

FOOD
We were served Baflas with tadke wali tuar dal, dahi kadhi, gatte ki sabzi, lassan & coriander mint chutneys, salad, and keri panna.

Bafle had the perfect golden crispy crust and friable inside with a buttery flavor. What I loved the most was the fact that they used just enough ghee to give it an authentic flavor & feel, making it ideal for health conscious people. They served extra ghee to please the foodies like me. Hence, a win-win for both.

The naughty recurrence of ghee is best explained by an Indian author, Chitrita Banerji, who wrote: ‘It is only natural that cooks from Rajasthan, a land where survival is a struggle and nature far from bountiful, will make the most of the non-perishable elements such as sugar and ghee ‘ to give tone, depth, and nuance to their food.’



Tadke wali daal didn’t work for me. It was neither bland, nor spicy. Good news is, it’s made with minimum amount of oil & there are so many options that you won’t even realise it’s taste after mixing it with kadhi, gatte ki sabzi and chutneys.
Dahi ki kadhi – Ah! This has to be my favorite. It was a perfect combination of sour, sweet & spicy & the goodness can be experienced with every spoon. It complements Dal bafle really well. Also, dahi kadhi is a refreshing accompaniment in summers.


Gatte ki sabzi – It’s a traditional Rajasthani dish. Cylindrical chickpeas dumplings are cooked in the spicy curry made with curd giving it an oomph factor. They were perfectly cooked, soft and spicy.

Fair warning – It’s more on the spicy side.


Lassan chutney – It’s really spicy and so good that you can’t help adding a big spoon to the mix and immediately regretting it because when it comes to lassan chutney, less is more.


Mint and coriander chutney – It’s summers, anything with mint is bound to blow your mind away.


Salad – I can’t eat food without salad, hence this was a must. Although, they added a bit of spicy chaat masala and I didn’t like it.
Laddoo – I don’t have a sweet tooth but these Laddoos were to die for. It took the platter to altogether a new level. These Choorma Laddoos were made with the same flour as bafle with sugar and nuts in the mix. Not too sweet, and so delectable.


Kerri Panna – came as a relief as it was, ‘thanda thanda cool cool,’ but it tasted more like Jaljeera than panna.


PROS

– Vrindavan is the only restaurant in the city to provide this village style authentic Rajasthani sitting arrangement.
– Free home delivery.
– Food is value for money.
– Less oily.
– They serve ghee separately, in case you’re health conscious.
– Sitting arrangement aids in digestion.
– Misting fans to beat the heat.
– Ideal for family outing or picnic.
– Beautiful decor.
CONS –
– Available only on Saturday & Sunday.
– Panna could be better.
– Chaach can be added to the mix. It’s a better alternative to Kerri Panna.
– I love how they serve ‘khichda,’ with ghee and Jaggery in Rajasthani style thaals, hence I’m making a suggestion that they can add khichda to their menu too.

– Water that was served to us, was at room temperature. Since it’s summers, I think they should serve chilled water.
Ambiance – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Service – ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Taste – ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Presentation – ⭐️⭐️⭐️
Overall – ⭐️⭐️⭐️.7
My verdict – this sit-down style restaurant is a ‘must have experience,’ in the city.  But do remember, this is a ghee-laden meal so go with an empty stomach, and keep the calorie conscience temporarily shut for the day.

Price – ₹200/-

Timings – 11am to 4pm.

Address – Vrindavan Premises, Scheme No. 78. Vijay Nagar.

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If you have any queries or suggestions, you can contact me on Revaparihar@gmail.com

Till next time!

Source – http://www.indianeagle.com/travelbeats/indian-food-history/

http://m.thenational.ae/lifestyle/food/food-obsession-dal-baati-churma

Ego


Before I start, here’s a question for you guys – “How the year 2016 changed you?”

Change is inevitable, & so is personal growth. Looking back at 2016 I can think of so many incidents that shook me & I’m not talking about Brexit or Trump’s win for that matter.

I’ve decided to document these changes on this 7 part series called ~ ‘How 2016 changed me‘ & here is the first part – EGO.

You don’t care about anyone but yourself.”

“You’re such a condescending jerk!!!!”

“You’re so full of yourself!”

“Why can’t you call first?”

“You really need to stop showing off!”

“It’s just a grammar mistake on a casual chat, please stop being a grammar nazi all the time.”

“Yeah yeah, you’re a Mr. KNOW IT ALL.”

“Will you stop fishing for compliments?”

“I know you have connections with powerful people because you mention that to me thrice a day. Stop!”

“You’re so materialistic!”

“Is it so important to have the Last word in an argument?”

If you’ve heard any of these sentences for yourself before, darling you’re suffering from ‘Ego-mania.’


So what exactly does Ego mean?

 Ego is nothing but an image you’ve created for yourself that gives you an identity or should i say, Ego is an exaggeration of who you are. It’s the feeling of self importance that blinds you to the truth. Ego is your over confidence, Ego is what gives you a superiority complex. 


Ego is ‘self image’ gone on the rampage.

We all have Ego, some have big Egos & others have realistic ones. A big ego is nothing but high self esteem & sometimes, it’s not a bad thing but most of the time, it is. 

For example – When Muhammad Ali, a man who proclaimed himself “The Greatest,” you appreciate it and you certainly don’t call him overconfident for saying “I’m the best!!” because he has proven his mettle. That’s his swag. That’s his charm. That’s his big ego but it’s this ego ṭhat tells him, “You are unstoppable!” & he believes it. The truth is, it’s not just his big ego that made him great, it was his practice that did. But again, you can’t ignore the much needed motivation that his big ego gave him.

If some mediocre boxer announces that, ‘I’m the best!’ And lose his next fight, will you still appreciate it? No. You’ll laugh at him. 

There, that’s the difference.


One thing I’m glad that changed in 2016 is my EGO.

The trouble with big ego is, there’s a constant need of approval from others that you’re the best. You want to be appreciated. You think you deserve it, because come on, “you’re the best.” Things should go exactly how you want them to be.

You need all the attention in the world to feed your ego. Sometimes you’ll get it, sometimes you won’t. Trouble starts, when you are so immersed in this emptiness that you start lying around to make yourself sound important. You’ll belittle others just to prove you’re better than them. You become the drug sniffing dog of finding faults in others just to satisfy your need to be feel superior.


Ego is like that corrupt politician who makes false promises of making everything better & before you know it, Ego starts controlling your actions & all of them will be to gratify only yourself.

Ego is not ambition, ego is ‘over ambition.’ It’s an illusion. It’s a shadow you live behind to protect yourself from your own mediocrity. It is the root cause of ignorance.

“The ego is a terrible taskmaster who drives you to distress.”

(The Tao is Tao, 73)

It will be wrong to say that I’m not egoistic anymore. I don’t think that’s a state even possible to achieve. But yes, I’m not ‘that’ egoistic as how I used to be & that’s a progress I’m really proud of.

I’m not saying I don’t care about the compliments I get, I’m saying I don’t fish for compliments. I’m not saying I don’t like 300 likes on my pictures, I’m saying I don’t care even if it’s just 10. I’m not saying I’ll sell my iPhone because I’m not materialistic anymore, I’m saying I’m not gonna show off my iPhone. I’m not saying I’m satisfied with my life, I’m saying I’ve accepted the emptiness. I’m not saying that I won’t argue with you if I think you’re wrong, I’m saying I won’t hesitate accepting my mistakes. 


The hardest lesson you will ever learn is to accept the fact that you aren’t that important as you think you are, or that they won’t love you back just because you’re in love with them


It’s heartbreaking. If you have big ego, this is gonna shred you to pieces but if you are mature enough to understand that not everything is meant to make you happy, you might find happiness in letting go. 

Everything that happens in your life, is not happening TO you, it’s happening FOR you. You don’t have to like it, but life will be happier if you do.

Even the word says, let it (e)GO.



Blame.

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There is a very thin line between blame & responsibility. .And when you hit your mid twenties, you really need to draw that line. .

We know what we want, but sometimes, we are way too scared to move out of our ‘uncomfortable’ comfort zone. .

Life is full of surprises. Things which made you unhappy a while back, are now your beautiful memories. People who meant everything to you, are no more a part of your life. .There were times when I thought nothing in this world could make me happy again, & then there are times when I feel blessed. .I have no idea what Iam writing right now. All I know is, I have to get it out of my system. .

I had this list which I made long time back. .about the things that will make me happy. .things like traveling to exotic places. Partying till the first ray of light shows up. Doing adventures. Staying away from home so that I’ll have a chance to miss my family (No offense mom & dad, I really love you, a lot, but I do need to stay away for a while).
Taking those many selfies at all those beautiful places that my phone will say “insufficient memory”. Living a life completely different to how it is right now, so that I can appreciate everything I have now. (Not that I don’t appreciate it now, but It has been so monotonous that I ll do anything for a little change). Learning how to bake in Paris. Taking adventure sports to the extent that I can see my end. .Oh my God! So many things & they are still pending. .

I want to live my life on that uncertainty. I want to survive on that adrenaline rush which comes with “now, what next?”. But the sad truth is, I know how my life is going to be. It will be just an extension of what it is now. Living safe. My parents think it’s time for me to settle. What they don’t understand is, it’s already a settled life. I wake up, help mom with chores, Work, play with my pets, eat, a little run or walk may be. What could be more settling then this? Just me staying away from them in another city was a big risk for them. Can’t blame them either. Iam their favourite. Iam the only girl child & Iam youngest. They wanted to give me a better life & they did. They gave me everything. A good education, and what not. What they Dint let me do is, to take risks. Taking stupid decisions & regretting them for the rest of my life. That’s what I think I did owe to myself. .

According to Buddha –
“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.”
So, here Iam. . Writing this useless post, with a made up mind that Iam not gonna just survive, but iam gonna live. .

I have BLAMED my family, for way too long now. But the truth is, at this age, I can’t. I shouldn’t.
It’s easy to blame. Sometimes, ourselves, sometimes others. After all, it’s easier to blame then stepping out of your uncomfortable ‘comfort zone’. .The truth is, we have to parent us. And it’s not something that we’ll learn overnight. .I’m sure even our parents had no idea before we made an entrance. .But they did learn. So will we. .

Sometimes we don’t realise we are responsible for us till we go through that career setback, that feeling where you aren’t content with yourself, or that exhaustion when you realise that you can not change your family’s opinion, no matter what, or that heartbreak which you once thought you will never recover from. .

And no, Iam not going to run away. Iam going to find a middle ground. Iam responsible for taking care of my wants, desire, dreams, passion, expectations, opinions & feelings. Taking responsibilities for my action is going to be hard. I know I’ll be exhausted. There will be times when I might even question my own decisions and fuck there’s a good chance that I’ll be wrong. .But it’s okay. .I have already spent a long time because of, “what if?”  factor. What if I make a wrong decision & it will Hurt me. What if, I can’t handle the consequences. But life doesn’t come with a crystal ball. .Because it will still be better than living with the regret that I Dint take my chance & definitely better than waiting for someone to come along & make it alright for me. .

At last, all I can say is. .Fighting with others is easy, but fighting with ourselves isn’t. Taking responsibility simply means not focusing on blame. .blame is the past, responsibility is the future. .choose wisely, which path do you wanna walk on?

Praise

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Everybody likes a compliment!

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
– Mark Twain.

That’s wonderful Mr. Twain, but I sincerely don’t think many people can live off of 6 compliments per year!

Who doesn’t love compliments? I know, I do. .it’s sheer happiness when someone praises you. It’s like all the ‘Self doubt’ is melting away. .when I hear people praising me, I get this big smile on my face. .

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Oh stop it you! 😇

But is it healthy?

As Freud has said, “we are able to defend ourselves from attack but never from a compliment.” After a while, we start craving for attention. It becomes a necessity to be approved by people. Thanks to social media, this pool of people has increased from family & friends to strangers. .

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Because who doesn't wana feel loved?

Do not judge me, but this was the scene a while back –
My heart : love this picture, upload it.
Brain : but would it fetch 100 or more likes?
Vanity : Ah! Apparently, No! Click another.
& before I forget to mention, Vanity wins. Almost all the time. .

But imagine, just imagine. . How peaceful your life would be, if no one needed any praise. .Imagine a world where people don’t desire to get attention. .where there is no need to be validated by others. .

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Sweet praises? Ignore.
Sour remarks? Ignore.

Iam not saying attention is bad. Iam saying, ‘need for attention’ is bad. Iam not saying ‘stop using social media & Go to himalayas & meditate’, Iam saying, ‘don’t give a damn to what people think. They don’t define you. You do.’

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Just relax. Breathe.

Moreover, Praises are an addiction. We often try to change ourselves to impress others. .to be good enough to get more accolades. .What we don’t realise is, how unhealthy it is. .Thanks to social media, we often surround ourselves with people who flatter us. .feign being genuine. .people who make us feel like we are trading compliments for compliments. .Validation for Validation & unfortunately, also, Judgement for Judgement. .Never trust a compliment in return of a compliment. .The fact is, you’ll find yourself in a happy place, the moment you stop trying to impress others. .

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Key to a healthy relationship is where there are no false pretences. .haven’t you heard of this famous line, “I love you, because I can be myself with you.” Well, why can’t you be yourself with others. What’s stopping you? It is okay to be you, without requiring constant affirmation from others. .accept yourself, accept others. .trust me, it’s a lot better than fighting for attention. .

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One guy commented on one of my Instagram post, “you just missed out on height, otherwise super hot.” Well, life is small and so am I. To be honest, for a while (actually more than a while) I worried, regretted my height (including pestering my friends with the same question again & again – am I too short?). .and for what? One lame comment? Was it even worth it?

It took me a long time to understand, it is okay not being perfect. And more importantly, it is okay when people say you’re not perfect.

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This world we live in, needs our patience, & yes, acceptance. .

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Never bottle up all your love, let it flow! There's nothing more beautiful than making someone feel loved. Belonging ❤

Just to be clear, I am not saying praises are bad. .Accept compliments, but don’t let it bolster your ego. .You don’t need them to feel beautiful. .don’t change yourself to please others. .Appreciate yourself. .You are beautiful, just the way you are! Find your peace. .

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Having said that, Never underestimate the power of random compliments. .they can make someone’s day. .See good in people. .

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Appreciate others. .Be kind. .Spread the love ❤