Before I start, here’s a question for you guys – “How the year 2016 changed you?”

Change is inevitable, & so is personal growth. Looking back at 2016 I can think of so many incidents that shook me & I’m not talking about Brexit or Trump’s win for that matter.

I’ve decided to document these changes on this 7 part series called ~ ‘How 2016 changed me‘ & here is the first part – EGO.

You don’t care about anyone but yourself.”

“You’re such a condescending jerk!!!!”

“You’re so full of yourself!”

“Why can’t you call first?”

“You really need to stop showing off!”

“It’s just a grammar mistake on a casual chat, please stop being a grammar nazi all the time.”

“Yeah yeah, you’re a Mr. KNOW IT ALL.”

“Will you stop fishing for compliments?”

“I know you have connections with powerful people because you mention that to me thrice a day. Stop!”

“You’re so materialistic!”

“Is it so important to have the Last word in an argument?”

If you’ve heard any of these sentences for yourself before, darling you’re suffering from ‘Ego-mania.’

So what exactly does Ego mean?

 Ego is nothing but an image you’ve created for yourself that gives you an identity or should i say, Ego is an exaggeration of who you are. It’s the feeling of self importance that blinds you to the truth. Ego is your over confidence, Ego is what gives you a superiority complex. 

Ego is ‘self image’ gone on the rampage.

We all have Ego, some have big Egos & others have realistic ones. A big ego is nothing but high self esteem & sometimes, it’s not a bad thing but most of the time, it is. 

For example – When Muhammad Ali, a man who proclaimed himself “The Greatest,” you appreciate it and you certainly don’t call him overconfident for saying “I’m the best!!” because he has proven his mettle. That’s his swag. That’s his charm. That’s his big ego but it’s this ego αΉ­hat tells him, “You are unstoppable!” & he believes it. The truth is, it’s not just his big ego that made him great, it was his practice that did. But again, you can’t ignore the much needed motivation that his big ego gave him.

If some mediocre boxer announces that, ‘I’m the best!’ And lose his next fight, will you still appreciate it? No. You’ll laugh at him. 

There, that’s the difference.

One thing I’m glad that changed in 2016 is my EGO.

The trouble with big ego is, there’s a constant need of approval from others that you’re the best. You want to be appreciated. You think you deserve it, because come on, “you’re the best.” Things should go exactly how you want them to be.

You need all the attention in the world to feed your ego. Sometimes you’ll get it, sometimes you won’t. Trouble starts, when you are so immersed in this emptiness that you start lying around to make yourself sound important. You’ll belittle others just to prove you’re better than them. You become the drug sniffing dog of finding faults in others just to satisfy your need to be feel superior.

Ego is like that corrupt politician who makes false promises of making everything better & before you know it, Ego starts controlling your actions & all of them will be to gratify only yourself.

Ego is not ambition, ego is ‘over ambition.’ It’s an illusion. It’s a shadow you live behind to protect yourself from your own mediocrity. It is the root cause of ignorance.

“The ego is a terrible taskmaster who drives you to distress.”

(The Tao is Tao, 73)

It will be wrong to say that I’m not egoistic anymore. I don’t think that’s a state even possible to achieve. But yes, I’m not ‘that’ egoistic as how I used to be & that’s a progress I’m really proud of.

I’m not saying I don’t care about the compliments I get, I’m saying I don’t fish for compliments. I’m not saying I don’t like 300 likes on my pictures, I’m saying I don’t care even if it’s just 10. I’m not saying I’ll sell my iPhone because I’m not materialistic anymore, I’m saying I’m not gonna show off my iPhone. I’m not saying I’m satisfied with my life, I’m saying I’ve accepted the emptiness. I’m not saying that I won’t argue with you if I think you’re wrong, I’m saying I won’t hesitate accepting my mistakes. 

The hardest lesson you will ever learn is to accept the fact that you aren’t that important as you think you are, or that they won’t love you back just because you’re in love with them

It’s heartbreaking. If you have big ego, this is gonna shred you to pieces but if you are mature enough to understand that not everything is meant to make you happy, you might find happiness in letting go. 

Everything that happens in your life, is not happening TO you, it’s happening FOR you. You don’t have to like it, but life will be happier if you do.

Even the word says, let it (e)GO.

103 thoughts on “Ego

  1. Can definitely relate. 2016 has been a year that I have done a bit on less. The excess really got shaved off and I came out well on core structure and principles. Definitely owe my successes to a lot more than just myself

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  2. Next is something else actually! I’m writing a 7 part series on how 2016 changed me. .its a part of that. I’m writing on ‘love and attachment’ right now, any inputs are more than welcomed πŸ’•

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  3. Perhaps a piece on “reality checks”? Those things that just happen and make you step back and review your life and/or your future. Perhaps a piece on negative incidents and how they were changed to positives? What you have learned from life and how it has changed your perspectives? How a significant emotional event dramatically changed your reality? What you have learned from your parents and others of that generation…. what is applicable and what is not? How world events impacted your life? Are you in tune with your culture, or is there a desire to change it? Depending your age – How have your life perspectives changed from teen to adult?
    Just some random thoughts! πŸ™‚

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  4. It is not ironic that you selected ego as the first piece. Living in America, we just elected as President one of the most narcissistic people many of us well ever witness. I am still stunned that people could not see through this man and his insatiable ego. His history has shown, it has always been and forever will be about him.

    So, in terms of change for me, I did my best to advocate against this man, so I will need to learn to live with him as our President and all that entails. I will need to pushback on the issues that mean most to me, should they not be addressed or he leads us down a poor path and I hope he will be successful doing more good things for our country.

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  5. To be honest, I sincerely didn’t expect him to win but then I guess we all didn’t imagine the silent support he had behind him. Had it been Sanders instead of Clinton, I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t have won. He fought against the administration and I guess people really needed a change. It was disappointing seeing him winning this especially because he never disclosed HOW HE WILL MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN. No plans, nothing. But since now he is the president elect, you should accept him wholeheartedly. If Pence can, so can you! Stay United and do your bit. America is great because of its residents and not its president πŸ™‚

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  6. This was a hardcore awesome post! A lot of fun ideas written very clearly. It sounds like your ego has softened even if it is still large. The willingness and open-mindedness you developed to admit when you are wrong is a huge step in humility. I know when I was younger I always had to get the last word, and that was ego.

    You are one of the first people I’ve encountered to claim having a big ego can actually be tough on self-esteem. They are so hard to differentiate but I think self esteem is more your self value without comparison to others.

    I wanted to learn how to kill my ego for a long time but I decided that ego is how you relate to other people and is a needed psychological tool for relationships.

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  7. First of all, thank you! You got my point and I’m so glad we are connected here. Ego, as you said is the urge to have the last word & ‘self esteem’ is to know when to stop before it’s too late. Ego can often disguise as self esteem or you can it is inflated self esteem. Speaking psychologically, Freud gave the concept of id, ego & superego. You might like reading about it ☺️

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  8. I have read a fair amount of Freud. I accidentally ripped him off in my prior post regarding the super ego. If you read that thing I am sorry haha.

    People give Freud a lot of criticism because he wanted to have sex with his mom but he was onto something regarding the unconscious. Your unconscious is like your own personal shoulder Dionysus. I think a lot of identity information about the ego is formed in the unconscious. There was a shift in collective unconscious to idiosyncratic unconscious in the 1880’s. This is when “hysteria” started because identity roles in society got so complex and the unconscious couldn’t consolidate.

    Anyway ya Freuds cool thinking historically, but I been more into Eckert Tolle type stuff recently. Any reading suggestions?

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  9. Timothy Leary’s 8 system model. Antero Alli does a good version called Angeltech


  10. great post…….ego has sunk many ships………..better leave it in a corner somewhere….. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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  11. This is a very good post here! Ego is something that we all have and display to some degree. The challenge with our egos is learning to control it at times. How you break down ego is refreshing and makes a person realize that it is not always about them.

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  12. I don’t really think having an ego is a bad thing; most people never had it; so technically having an ego is kind of like growing out of your comfort zone. Most people just see it as something bad; whereas its not.

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  13. Umm, let’s leave it at agree to disagree πŸ˜‚ it’s not our mind when we think we are the best when we are not. It’s good if that gives you the confidence to be the best, it’s not when you become bombastic.

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  14. I think the psych def of ego is inadequate. For Freud the ego is simply the personality .Of course it would be the goal of therapy to manage and explore neuroses. Naturally does not mean the same as arrogance as in the first definition. Thanks for your recent visit to my blog.

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  15. Yes, right. So much that is new and perhaps contradictory to Freud has evolved over the decades but I think he should be the be the beginning point for psych studies. Same with Darwin. So much new and different now in evolution but both are like learning the multiplication tables for us to enter into their respective fields.


  16. Ego is a tricky little devil. nips you in the butt when you least expect it πŸ™‚
    Appreciate your follow – wish you well in 2017 and hope that you have a peaceful and love-filled Christmas

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  17. I think the ego which gives us pride also breaks us into pieces. When we break that’s when we learn that we had ego and a big one. Been there, experienced it πŸ˜…

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  18. Yeah, but the pain varies according to ego. Good post, but must have written about transcending our mind and emotions and to remain in present moment (if you have read power of now) it would help a lot of people who are in this Paradox.


  19. Yeah, but pain varies in everyone. Good post, but you must have written about how to remove this it would have helped a lot many.


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