Acceptance

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I like to think of myself as a strong independant woman inspite of the fact that I too, have spent nights crying. .sadly, that includes crying over my past. .and the truth is, it hurts. .Sometimes, I can go months at a time without thinking about him but then all of a sudden, it will hit me. .not him per se, but the memories we made. .sometimes, they make me smile, sometimes they make me numb. .
Talking about Crying. . Does that made me any less strong? I understand it wasn’t meant to be, but still there’s a part of me that is still not over him. .does that make me vulnerable?
That’s a question I always think about.. And the answer I always come up with, is a firm ‘No’. Because, Iam strong enough to accept it. .and trust me, it takes a lot of courage to do that. .to understand what it was, & what it will be. .I realise he really is gone & maybe for good. .

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Iam at a happy place. .because those memories which haunted me once, doesn’t make me sad anymore. .it’s a great feeling to look back & smile cherishing those moments. .I simply don’t understand the phrase “Get over it”. All of us are in such a hurry to put our problems in the past tense. .Don’t! It’s a process. It might take few days or may be a lifetime. .and that is okay! Trust me, it is 🙂

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  1. vcsood says:

    Beautiful observations

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  2. Thank you 🙂

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  3. shambhavi31 says:

    I agree! Totally! 🙂 Thank you so much for stopping by my blog. I am glad I came across you, I have read one piece, and I am happy to stay. 🙂
    Best wishes,
    Shambhavi

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  4. Thanks much Shambhavi! Btw, love your name too 🙂

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  5. shambhavi31 says:

    Oh that’s so sweet of you! Thank you!Lady,You are pretty! ^_^

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  6. Luz Natalia says:

    You may never forget, but you will feel better. Time is all you need.

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  7. Just what I was trying to say! It’s incredible how two strangers can connect over same thoughts. . Thanks much 🙂

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  8. Luz Natalia says:

    You’re welcome. I’m at the same place also. I hope some of my work helps you in some way. Best wishes in your heart’s recovery.

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  9. I wish the same for you! And I loved your writings, so yes. . Iam sure that will help 🙂

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  10. Deanne says:

    I think your writing is very relevant and filled with wisdom. It’s a easy and nice read with great insights and relatable 🙂

    “I simply don’t understand the phrase “Get over it”. All of us are in such a hurry to put our problems in the past tense. .Don’t! It’s a process. It might take few days or may be a lifetime. .and that is okay! Trust me, it is ”

    Very true, healing is a process…

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  11. Yes, healing is a process and tears are a release, and part of that process. You are able to articulate very well, what you are feeling. Very very nice blog!

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  12. Iam so glad you stopped by! Thanks much 🙂

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  13. Love your outlook on life through your eyes, thanks for new perspective through the eyes and heart of another………..I look forward to reading more…..

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  14. That’s such a beautiful thing to say!! Really appreciate it 🙂

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  15. I like this one a lot. I’ve been through some heartbreaks myself and I have a lot of respect for a person who can do it with such strength.

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  16. Thanks much hon! It’s an overwhelming feeling that you could relate to it too 🙂

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  17. AKIRAA says:

    Hey thank you so much for all those likes.. you have a wonderful blog!!
    Keep blogging! :))

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  18. I’m sorry yore having to feel it but glad you know someone out there gets it. My thoughts are with you.

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  19. That’s such a sweet thing to say!! Really appreciate it 🙂

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  20. Have yourself a great night!

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  21. It’s crazy to read your posts and see all of the similarities between us. In a way it is uplifting to see someone so strong that has gone through basically the same thing I’m struggling to overcome right now. Excited to see what you come up with next!

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  22. It dint happen overnight though! Iam excited to connect with you! Keep blogging 🙂

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  23. Rohit Vishwakarma says:

    Crying is fine.. No harm.. It shows the feeling inside You was real.. N memories never dies.. They just fade away by new ones..
    N one truth is eternal that..
    ‘What Happened, Happens for a reason’..
    Surely a better thing is on cards for u 🙂

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  24. Fingers crossed 🙂

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  25. Rohit Vishwakarma says:

    But Don’t wait.. Things will fall in ur basket what is meant for u..
    Just keep moving strongly with smile..
    Coz that can be the reason for someone else smile too,who might be waiting for u 🙂

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  26. That’s very true. In our struggle to be positive, we often rush through pain, as if it’s poisonous.

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  27. Coming from you means a lot. . I loved the tagline of your book, “real smiles are the shared ones” such beauty 🙂

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  28. Thank you! I’m very fond of that line (and book), which is why you can read it for free on my blog 🙂

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  29. Iam surely gonna read it soon 🙂

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  30. babysteps22 says:

    I completely agree! You can’t just dump everything under the bed because it’s quicker because one day or the other you are going to have pick up all the pieces one by one to put it away. I love your writing! 😀

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  31. Exactly what I was trying to say!
    P. S – about writing, it’s *mutual* 😀

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  32. Afzal Moolla says:

    a powerful intensely personal piece … touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing your emotions and your exquisite writing

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  33. vibrantmindsetfree says:

    In those times of vulnerability and weakness; those are the moments for our breakthroughs, revival, healing, growth, and initially lifting it up and letting go. Girl, it’s okay to cry and I like that you know this. Those things do take time and it’s okay to admit the process. But blessed are those who remain steadfast in the midst of trial and I know that the breakthrough is near and you will be made stronger 🙂 sometimes we do need to cry it out and it’s okay to mourn and miss people who were once apart of our lives. But the beauty of the mess, is that breakthrough that happens in its time, the right time, allowing us to press forward with a sense of empowerment. This post made me smile. Thank you for your transparency.

    Grace x love

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  34. It’s a happy feeling when you are appreciated! Thanks much!!! Means a lot 🙂

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  35. And this comment made me smile! Thanks girlie!! *-*

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  36. Afzal Moolla says:

    your words inspire and are real. That means a lot. Thank you for sharing your heartfelt expressions

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  37. Beautiful post! I like the way you are sharing your emotions. Thank you for subscribing to my blog, You can count me among your followers 🙂

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  38. My friend tells me all the most important things in life she learned through painful experiences…she feels suffering is necessary for true learning. I’ve heard this expressed from a religious perspective as well. Many believe someone comes across hard times, pain, illness and loss because a higher power has something to teach them.
    I reject it all. Firmly.
    We learn in hard times because we strive to pull something good out of the mess. We learn from that hope, that belief in something beyond the pain. We keep waking up each day with the human spirit telling us today will be a better day…we need to listen to those internal, often silenced voices…give our heart’s response credit, not the painful cause. Yes, sometimes we have to sit in the middle of the mess and feel, and own, and accept the great sadness in order to still oursleves so we can hear the lesson… It’s not the sadness that is required for the learning; it’s the listening. Hugs- Ret

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  39. That’s such a wonderful thing to say! Thanks much! Death doesn’t kill people, Sadness does. .once you embrace the pain, you will be free. .having people around who can understand what you are going through, is the best thing anyone could ask for! Really appreciate your comment!! It made me smile 🙂

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  40. Thank you so much! *_*

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  41. loverbelle says:

    Awwwwww *huggg because I know the feeling. The worst part is that person just not seem to understand the damage. You are strong ~^: ^~

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  42. That’s definitely the worst part! And you are too sweet!! Iam happy to connect 🙂 Xoxo!!!

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  43. Susan Langer says:

    Loved what you wrote. They have a saying in Al=anon…No pain, No gain. Suffering motivates us to learn lessons from the pain so that we aren’t destined to keep repeating our mistakes. God Bless…:)

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  44. God bless you! Thanks much for a wonderful comment! I loved the part where you said, “no pain, no gain” 🙂

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  45. Love never goes if it was truly was Love….you can move on but still look back and remember the feelings. You have it right, don’t rush the process or you will break the heart of the next person. “No one should have to clean out the baggage that someone else packed….”

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  46. True that 🙂

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  47. shanx says:

    I trust you 😉 😀 That’s a nice thought you jotted down here. Cheers.

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  48. I think you are a strong, independent woman regardless of the tears shed. I’m glad you have found me! Hopefully you are here to stay because I most certainly am. Keep writing 🙂

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  49. Yes! As a matter of fact, a new blog is coming right up! Happy to connect!! Keep writing 🙂

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  50. wood says:

    Great peace. Good that you can look back without it affecting you in a very bad way. That’s a great sign of growth.

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  51. Good! I look forward to it 😉

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  52. Please do 😀

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  53. I keep telling myself the same 😀 thanks for stopping by 🙂

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  54. wood says:

    No problem at all. I’ll be reading more

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  55. Thanks much! Appreciate it 🙂 will look forward for your reviews too!!

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  56. wood says:

    Awww ok cool.

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  57. Violet says:

    Acceptance is a new beginning, a lesson has been learned and you’re growing into yourself. You will like this stronger person and always remember how you got there, it will humble you (been there). I’ve learned, you don’t need someone to complete you 🙂

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  58. One of the most true writings. It felt connected. Good work girl:)

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  59. ywwp says:

    Acceptance…The title is well thought..
    I think by writing what is inside makes a person independent..
    regards
    http://YourWellWisherProgram.wordpress.com

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  60. It’s a wonderful feeling that I could connect with you with my writing! Thanks girlie!! 🙂

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  61. I appreciate that! Thank you! 🙂

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  62. Nadine says:

    Chapeau bas!! You are a brilliant writer

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  63. me says:

    I think that the best of posts are the ones that are heartfelt, no editings or sugar-quoted nothings! This is beautiful, yes, beautiful! Because despite the hurt you may feel, you have broken through the mist of sad tears to write about it and give yourself a license to take as long as you would need. Healing takes time, but it starts only when we come to terms with the fact that it is a conscious effort, and not something like magic that happens upon you in a wade of the wand.

    Welldone, and happy healing! ❤

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  64. Thank you for such a beautiful comment ❤

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  65. Jackie Jain says:

    Yes. I can understand the feelings here. It is great when we are living those memories. But sometimes when we remember them, there is some emptiness in those feelings. We should fill that emptiness with something inspiring. Because memories should not ruin the present moments. Let the past live in past. It is happy being there. 🙂
    Don’t drag it in present.

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  66. Couldn’t agree more. .
    P. S – Jackie Jain is quite innovative! 😀

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  67. lorikoke says:

    Beautiful insight! Thanks for sharing ♡

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  68. Thank you so much 😄

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  69. Fate says:

    Reblogged this on Thee Infinite Love.

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  70. Jackie Jain says:

    Haha… Thank you so much.. 🙂

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  71. Rachna says:

    Excellent !!! 🙂

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  72. Thank you ❤

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  73. annieandcurt says:

    I hope the quotes you have come across that give so much to me and im sure you as well will continue to give you strength during those tough times

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  74. God bless 😇

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  75. Gwenice Gwee says:

    “All of us are in such a hurry to put our problems in the past tense. .Don’t! It’s a process. It might take few days or may be a lifetime. .and that is okay”

    I agree that we always try to hurry and forget about our mistakes and problems immediately. Reading your post made me reflect that yes, we do need time to learn. It’s a process, and we should take our time instead of rushing ourselves.

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  76. Iam glad I could connect with you x

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  77. gracekisilu says:

    That’s really beautiful

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  78. Iya Rai says:

    I love the way you write this post. It’s very honest and straightforward. Keep it up.

    Two thoughts though;

    Take your time.
    Never rush.

    Sincerely,
    Iya Rai

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  79. Noted 😇
    Thank you ❤

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  80. It is true for some people it does take days and others a long time. I believe one needs to cry but never regret. Move on when it is time to move on. And most importantly, forgive and do not live in the past. It is a past. Everyone has one. Thanks for the blog. Beautifully written.

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  81. Stardust94 says:

    That was really well put, I’m in that situation right now so this definitely helps me. 🙂

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  82. And we have the potential of becoming more empowered from within the more we experience. ♡ Thank you for sharing your post.

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  83. Thank you ❤

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  84. It’s a great feeling that I could connect with you. . Hugs x

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  85. Thank you for appreciating it 💕

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  86. matt says:

    Sometimes I think it’s difficult for men to cry and not feel ashamed. I cried hard recently and felt a little bit ashamed, but I agree that it can be healthy, and can even be a sign of strength in your own humanness and vulnerability. Thanks for writing this!

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  87. there’s no need to be ashamed darling! It’s beautiful to be in touch with your feelings 💕

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  88. Stardust94 says:

    Feelings mutual! xxx

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  89. Aren’t you sweet ❤

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  90. It takes me less time the first time it was nine years then the second time several months then the third time one week then it became one day and a few hours now its Planck seconds

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  91. Wreck.Ecrits says:

    Beautiful👌 couldn’t agree morw. 💕

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  92. Thanks darling! Hugs x

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  93. gabbylou says:

    So glad I checked your blog out – thanks for stopping by mine as well. This truly touched me today as my boyfriend I haven’t seen in 2 years is finally coming home! I’ve cried over so many little things & felt as you have. Thanks for the reminder that it’s real is okay to have to have those feelings sometimes. 🙂

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  94. Iam happy I could make you feel better. It’s okay to have feelings. We are only humans. Take care darling! xoxo

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  95. Beautiful writing! It is so hard to do, but the jobs most difficult are the most beneficial. Great work. Cynthia

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  96. Jens says:

    You are touching peoples souls in a positive healing way, Reva …that is a gift. I am reading your blogs backward and I wonder where I will end up on day one.
    Jens

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  97. Thank you for kind words ❤

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  98. Ah! Jens ❤
    P. S – destiny hun! Best is yet to come. .

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  99. Jens says:

    As destiny is lifes respnse to your passinons and character, your strengths and weaknesses I have no doubt …you are on a good path and the best is yet to come.

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  100. Dude, I love it all. Why don’t I follow you already?!*grumbles grimly*

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  101. Then please do 😀

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  102. Haha did that already. *grins*

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  103. victorenesi says:

    Yea, it’s hard to let go, but then even memories fade.

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  104. Yes! Memories fade away 😊

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  105. shubhada says:

    Too good! 😀

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  106. Thank you 😀

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  107. I’m so glad to come across your blog.And thanks for stopping by as well.It’s a beautiful post and inspiration as well. 🙂

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  108. I can’t thank you enough! I loved your blog too! Happy to connect ❤

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  109. so many bloggers praising you enough here… I’ll simply put it in 4 words ‘You’re a Rock Star’ ❤

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  110. Beparvah !! says:

    Well I too don’t understand the concept of “moving on” because at times I find it a selfish decision… I feel that I can live my entire life in the memories of her….

    The way she used to talk, the way she used to think, the way she used to laugh, the way she used to eat, the way she used to cry, the way she used to walk, the movement of her fingers when she used to write, the innovations she used to make on the English language…. etc…

    Thanks for sharing… Loved it reading
    God bless.

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  111. You know, it’s just incredible how you described it. . She sure was one lucky girl 😊

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  112. Beparvah !! says:

    I consider myself to be even more lucky..
    Hopefully one day would come when this message will reach to its destination!!
    Thank you…

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  113. You can just take a screenshot and text her 🙆

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  114. Beparvah !! says:

    I will surely do….

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  115. Beparvah !! says:

    Just scared …. Don’t want to risk the friendship I have at least… Same old story!!….

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  116. Do tell me how she replies 😊

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  117. What’s meant to be, is meant to be. . Right? See the signs. .and tell her before its too late 😇

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  118. Beparvah !! says:

    Yes…. I will…
    Are you in fb?

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  119. Beparvah !! says:

    “Before it’s too late” …omg.. That’s the worst part… to understand the time I guess…n am too bad to understand signs …except the unconditional love , respect n honesty, I have nothing as of now..

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  120. Then let the fate decide! All the best 🙂

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  121. Iam more of Twitter person than fb! It’s linked with my WordPress! 🙂

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  122. Great observation. Loved this post.

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  123. Iam glad you did! Happy to connect ☺️

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  124. I feel ya there. It’s a story that I am all too familiar with. Your words could be my own.

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  125. That’s such a beautiful thing to say ❤ thank you 😊

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  126. You’re very welcome! 🙂

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  127. dezaro says:

    I know the feeling all too well… Thinking about everything and how it could have turned out when it wasn’t in the past. It does haunt you. And having a day like that is normal, I got it last week. That moments when you dream of him, and the dream is so real… But there’s nothing you can actually do about it but accept it accordingly. It is a long process, especially if it’s a first love… Because you never forget them

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  128. Very long process indeed! There was a time when I thought I’ll never get over it. . And I Dint Even realise when it happened! Yes, I’ll never forget him. .But, past doesn’t haunt anymore!

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  129. dezaro says:

    And when you feel that you won’t ever love someone as much as you loved them… But if you can love the wrong one so much, imagine how much you will love the right one 😉

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  130. Couldn’t agree more! You know a while back, I was a little desperate to find that right one 😝 but now it’s okay! It’s all destined! You never know when the luck will come around ❤

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  131. dezaro says:

    And they say the best Relationship is one that comes when you least expect it 😊

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  132. kosmogonic says:

    This is viscerally powerful and painfully apt for that most beautiful and agonising part of our soul – the part we both gain and lose in love. You paint it so simply and honestly without pretension. It is very moving. K

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  133. Thank you so much K! ❤

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  134. Anonymous says:

    Bahot dard hai iss mein, though I like the way you have articulated this one.

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    Hi. I have nominated you for the Liebster Award. If you accept then go to my blog for instructions: nn1988.wordpress.com

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  136. Thank you so much! 😁

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  137. Yes yes yes. A big yes. I accept it. Will soon upload it. Thank you so much and sorry for the delay ❤

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  138. nn1988 says:

    Hahaha! ❤

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  139. I think we share a similar experience then ❤️

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  140. That’s the thing about love darling.

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  141. It leaves a trail…for the broken hearted to find each other haha we should help form a union 😝

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  142. Nice thoughts! And beautiful blog! Thank you for visiting my blog. Much appreciated.

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  143. You’re welcome 🙂

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  144. bjsscribbles says:

    Life memories come and go. The memories become easier over time. Sharing life experiences make life a little easier

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  145. True that! 😄

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  146. Crying makes a person stronger. That’s my personal opinion. So I cry my heart out whenever I feel sad or anything near that then I come back stronger. As always with my invisible cape. haha! Thanks for sharing these wonderful words. 🙂

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  147. Can’t even begin to tell you how much I appreciate this! That invisible cape is what makes you so beautiful! Much love, take care 💕

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  148. Glad to meet you here. Well, I’ve been through a lot lately and starting this blog is somehow a breathe of fresh air. 🙂 You do the same dear, xoxo.

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  149. nikibayard says:

    again 🙂 great!
    take the good, leave the bad xx

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