Long distance relationships comes with a ‘handle with care’ tag. We stay 900 miles apart. .So, every once in a while, we plan a trip. This time, it was his turn. I was awakened at dawn by his call. Apparently, his friend had just roused him with the suspicion that he might not make his 7:30 a.m. flight to join me because it was now 7:40 and he was still at home. .
Now, he was making desperate attempts to make up. Texting me sexy emojis. “Concentrate,” I replied, with an emoji of an airplane. He sent me an emoji of a red velvet cupcake (my fav).
Since I have met him, life has been a constant blur of ecstasy, happiness & wonderful delight. .He and I have been together for a very long time now. So, yes. . We are the official ‘go – to’ couple for our friends regarding their ‘Relationships talk’. Sometimes, we just sit listening to our in-thrall friends describing all the ways in which they will excel at their new found relationships. .
“I will always be your best friend,” they say. Also, “I will never let you down.” is a pretty common ‘relationship starter’ line these days. .
Everyone around me seems to be getting engaged or married. I love weddings though. There is so much I want to say. .
Things like, there will come a day when you and your better half, will fight about pity stuff like missed flights, and you’ll find yourself longing for the days when you had to pay for only your own mistakes.
All Iam trying to say is, no matter how much you love him, there will be a time when you will look at this person and feel only rage. That you will gaze at this man you once adored & think, “It sure would be nice to have this whole place to myself.”
I came across this article about ‘Zen Buddhism’, saying meditation helps practitioners detach from the cycle of desire and suffering. Although I prefer Pure Land Buddhism, an alternate path to enlightenment for people who may find it difficult to abandon worldly pain and passion because those things can also yield such beauty and comfort.
And then I read this beautiful line “life is suffering — and yet.”
I think about this “And yet” all the time.
In long relationships like marriage, you will come across so many “and yets”.
From time to time, he will think “Oh, I love this girl, and yet she’s such a mess.” From time to time, I’ll think, “I love him and yet when I’m sick, he’s not very caring.”
Life is a series of “And yet” moments.
That you are in love, and yet you will sometimes wonder what it would be like, to be single again. The longer you are with someone, the more big and little “and yets” rack up. You love this person. You plan to spend eternity together. . He is your ‘forever and ever’ And yet forever can begin to seem like a long time. In fact, there could be times when “Breaking up and starting afresh” might look tempting.
But “and yet” works the other way, too. .
In bad times, we still have the ability to make each other laugh. And yet, he is still my ‘Go – to’ person. And yet, I still love him.
Loving someone is easy. Being together forever is not. No relationship is perfect. But the beauty is not in perfection. The beauty is in trying and in the failing, and in the trying again. .There will be difficult times. Times when you would prefer giving up on your partner than going through those ridiculous fights again & again. You will have your share of doubts, & confusion but trust me, it’s still better than those couples who don’t have a hint of trouble. Yes, such people exist. .
Yeah okay, I know I have been rambling for very long now, so Iam gonna stop
*to be continued*