Human behaviour isn’t easy to understand. We are complex. If we were just complex, understanding a human wouldn’t have been that difficult. Rocket science is complex, but we do understand it. But we are, not only complex, but we are also ‘quaint’. Understand one rocket & you can understand all of them, but we can’t say the same for humans. Can we?
A person is different at different stages of life.
After all, we play different roles at different times.
Have you ever conflicted yourself? You say you want to move forward, but you are struck in the past. You say, you want that promotion but you don’t find yourself working for it? If yes, then do read the blog.
We can’t understand others, okay. . But the trouble is, most of the people can’t understand themselves too. Not completely.
The way I see it : –
A. There’s always something in our personality that niether we know, nor others.
B. There are things which others know, but we don’t. I Dint know, I chew loudly, but my friends did.
C. There’s a part of us, that we hide, from everyone (Oh, yes!). .
D. And finally, there’s the part which we know & so do others.
Psychology is a big riddle. Why do we do what we do? What drives us? Why are we nice to some and evil to others? Why do we love? Sometimes, i do things, which even i can’t explain. I’ll fight with my mom, & then I’ll repent it. Always. Still, I don’t stop arguing with her. And then, when I’ll successfully ruin my mood and hers, I’ll ask myself. . Why? Why did I fight, knowing that will affect me in a bad way? It’s like there’s something inside me, which prompted me to fight, which was so strong that it made me do it even when I Dint want to. .
“Psychology says that there’s a stimulation behind every thing we do. .and that lies in our subconscious mind. While your conscious mind is your logical, rational, analytical mind…your Subconscious is your il–logical, ir-rational, non-analytical mind. It will believe ANYTHING whether it makes logical sense or not. It never questions what you tell it. (So when trying to accomplish goals know in your conscious mind it takes time to attain them. But program your Subconscious into believing you have attained them NOW. You’ll reach goals much faster).” – Todd Wissler.
Now, talking about the conflict, I don’t like angry people. .and the irony is, I have had Hard time controlling my anger. I, myself don’t like me when Iam angry, still, I just can’t help it.
You can never satisfy your anger. It’s like the Joker from Batman. .Anger just wants to consume you. .and sometimes, we do lose our control & burst out & boom. .Anger – 1, you – 0.
Enough with the issues. Let’s see, what we can do about them.
First step to is to have the will to change yourself. . No one can help you, till you don’t wana help yourself.
You want to get that promotion, guess what? There are hundred others who want it too. .the good news is, we don’t live in a world where we’ll have to duel with someone (duels like in the gladiator, yes I had to add a little drama) to get that chance. There are abundant opportunities. So keep your options open & give your best. I know it’s easier said than done, because so many distractions. . But, don’t lose yourself. You are strong & you can do it. .maybe you haven’t realised it yet, but darling. . You have survived so far, because you are. Appreciate yourself. That’s the second step.
Getting back to anger, there’s always a reason behind our anger. Something unaccomplished. That unfulfilled desire. Isn’t it? So, next time when you get angry, (I know it’s difficult) but stop yourself, and self evaluate. Think about that unfulfilled desire. Think about how you gonna fulfill it. Don’t lash out on others, it never helps. That self evaluation is step three.
Step four, is never compare yourself with others. In other words, don’t be jealous. Stay away from ‘Ill will’. Do not keep enmity in your mind against anyone.
Sounds very preachy?
Think of it, in this way. All the time you spent hating them, who was affected in the end? They Dint know & they don’t care. But you? You wasted your time, your peace & your health.
Step five, is the realisation that it’s okay to fail. Sounds weird? Well, we aren’t a born genius. We won’t succeed in everything. But here’s the twist. When we fail, we know where we went wrong. Right? Change your strategy. Everyone fails. And it’s okay. What’s not okay is to give up. And that my dear, is
Step six – never give up.
Life is not fair. What’s more unfair is our idea of unfairness.
Keep faith & work hard. You will get there. Don’t lose your mind thinking about the outcome.
“karm Karo, fal ki iccha mat karo” – Bhagwad Geeta.
Step seven – be optimistic.
Always believe in your silver lining. (it’s my favourite proverb – every cloud has a silver lining). .Hope is dangerous but it keeps us alive.
Step eight – be patient.
Success won’t happen overnight. It’s gonna take time. Progress is slow. It’s one step at a time. Accept it. Just remember, it’s not the end, it’s the journey that matters. So stay on your path & live.
There’s so much more I want to say, and I’ll continue this in my next post. Do tell me if you liked it 🙂
In the end, all I want to say is. . Be reckless. This is the only life we get. This is all we have. And in the end, it’s all about how content you are, with yourself and with your life.