Ignored?

“They are not giving me enough time.”

“It was different when we started going around.”

“I love my partner more than they love me.”

“They used to respond immediately to my texts, now they take hours.”

“I make more compromises for my partner.”

“I’m giving my 100% but my partner isn’t.”

Have you ever been ignored!? If yes, read on.

Dating in today’s time is different. We lose interest quickly. It’s not complicated, but we complicate it.

It was fire when you started going around, now that fire is diminishing.

They seem really interested in you in starting and now for some reason that you don’t comprehend he/she has started ignoring you.

Now you’re at a phase where you really care about them but can’t understand why they don’t. It was different when it started.

It’s difficult to accept because you’ve seen them making you the center of their world and now you’re nowhere in their circle. Let’s accept it, it hurts. It hurts more when you don’t understand why? It hurts even more when you don’t want to give up. You know it’s going nowhere but it’s too late for you to get out of it. You’re in your comfort zone with them and it’s not easy coming out.

We all have been there.

Now comes the biggest question – how to deal with it? This is where we are divided into three groups. The first group will just give up and move on. Second, will call them incessantly and do everything to please them trying to make everything alright & the third group will go all with classic, “I’m not good enough.”

If you gave up and move on, kudos to you!

If you called them and still they didn’t respond, why do you want to be with someone who doesn’t care about your feelings? Don’t look for answers, ignorance is their answer.

If you think you’re not good enough, think again. Think about those people whose lives revolve around you. Think about your parents and friends. Think about that guy/girl who has been trying to get your attention but you did the same to them what happened to you.

It’s a sign that you deserve better.

You need to understand that you are not incomplete without them. They shouldn’t be the only reason to make you happy. This is where we all go wrong. We think we are going to lose them and we make ourselves way too much available for them because we don’t want to lose out on spending time with them. I’m not asking you to act pricey. All I’m saying is, the more you’ll compromise the more they will make you do. Basic human nature Yada Yada. Have such a fulfilling life that they shouldn’t be the only reason to make it beautiful. Don’t pretend to be busy, be busy. This will not only give them their space but also will help you in not being overly dependent on them. Being dependent on someone never helps, no matter how much you’re in love.

The moment you start trying to prove your worth to your partner is the moment where you actually lose it because you’ve already forgotten your value.

Take steps before it’s too late. Nobody just starts ignoring you like that. There are signs. When in an early stage, it can be curbed. A relationship can be saved. Here’s a list of things you need to understand before hell breaks down –

Don’t take them for granted.

Fights happen, but try to understand their point of view. That might be different than yours but it doesn’t mean they are wrong.

Don’t stop talking. It’s not an ego issue, its love.

There’s a pretty good chance that your partner is ignoring you because they are not at a happy place. Health issues or family drama, talk to them but give them their space.

It doesn’t have to be a special occasion to make them feel special. Every once in a while, you would like that, don’t you? Guess what, so do they.

Real conversations are important. Life is not just about fun. Compatibility and understanding are two most important pillars of any relationship.

Don’t threaten them with – “I’m gonna leave you.”

Don’t accuse them of something before you’re too sure about it.

Don’t tell them how to live their life or what to do. Don’t be a drug-sniffing dog for finding faults in them. Good criticism is good, but too much of it may kill your equation with them.

70% of relationships don’t work out not because you don’t love them enough, but you think they don’t love you enough.

At the end of the day, I’ll just say – be in your own happy place. Shahrukh in kuch kuch hota hai said, “pyaar ek hi baar hota hai, shaadi bhi ek hi baar hoti hai.” He himself fell in love twice and got married twice in the movie but we are still stuck with – “how will I live without you?” ideology.

Relationships need efforts but don’t lose yourself in making it work. It’s ‘you and I’ not just your partner. If you don’t know where you stand with them, stop standing and start walking. Every fight can be sorted but if they can’t be, don’t lose yourself, lose that relationship.

Till next time,

Xoxo.

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EXISTENCE 

I’m not Shakespeare nor do my words can shake a sphere (Earth!) I’m not Wordsworth, nor do my words are of any worth, but still here’s an honest attempt to understand this beauty called life.

What’s the meaning of life? We are taught in schools how dinosaurs were wiped out when a meteor hit our Earth. Now, we couldn’t have come into existence along with giant dinosaurs. We would have been their food. So, if that meteor hadn’t hit, humans wouldn’t have evolved. All I’m trying to say is – OUR EXISTENCE IS BY AN ACCIDENT.


Then why do we take this life so seriously?

We are always running. Running from one goal to other. Running from our problems. Looking for distractions to make our mundane life a little happening. Everything is a distraction. Social media, TV, movies, and of course – alcohol. My whole life has been a constant search for new distractions & I still don’t know what I’m looking for or what I’m running from. Sometimes I feel like even my distractions need a distraction. If I’m watching a movie on my laptop, I’ll pause it in between just to check my phone. If I’m working, I’ll look for a break just to get some fresh air. Why do you take sutta breaks in between your office hours? What does it make you do? What does it make you feel?


What’s the point of our existence? Why are we alive? To follow the rules? Why do we have so many morals that are taught by the society? This is right, that is wrong. These strong opinions that the society has fed us are the sole reason behind all this hatred. Everyone has a right to their opinions, but why is it so hard for us to accept that others can have different views & leave it at that. Why do we want to prove that we are superior? That our notion is the only right one and you should agree to what I say? Why? Can’t we just leave it at let’s agree to disagree? Have you ever felt good after an argument? I don’t. Then why?




We are petty people. We all are. We are angry, jealous, selfish, and ignorant. Okay now you might say that you’re talking in extremes, but you know I’m right. The degree of these qualities may vary but we all know it exists between us & people will eat you alive if it doesn’t. It’s survival. So where do we go from here? It’s basic human nature. 

The two most important things in life are your outlook & gratitude. Try looking at the positive aspects. Every cloud has a silver lining. A positive outlook can just change the course of your life. Be grateful for all the little things you have.

Life is simple and it’s in our nature to complicate it. We complicate because we can’t accept certain things. ‘I want it this way!’ Well, guess what? No one gets everything they want and you’re not an exception. 

All our suffering comes from our obsession with ourselves. Obsession about losing something, that special someone, that attention, that job opportunity maybe? Or obsessing about what I could have had. The moment you’ll realize that root of suffering is your obsession, you can come right out of it. Let it go! Accept what you don’t have, don’t expect what you should have. You’re never in control of your life, but you can control your mindset. If something is not making you happy, why to even think about it. Those thoughts aren’t worth the effort. Time spent worrying can be better used for taking actions for your dream. If you have a goal, you’re already better than rest of us. If you don’t have a goal, don’t waste time doing anything, indulge in a thing that might interest you and you might soon find your passion.

Expectations are the biggest evil. The truth is, doesn’t matter how many self-help books you read, this is basic human nature and you can’t get rid of it. That’s why I said, the key to happiness is ACCEPTANCE. Stop over analyzing and start accepting. You’ll always have problems. You’ll sort one out, you’ll face another. You’ll again kill your mood but for what? It may sound gloomy but I’m surrounded by unhappy people. Why can’t we just celebrate this unhappiness? 

One piece of advice my mom gave me, that I still remember vividly is – “when you know you have to do something, give your best.” We are living, this is our life. Own it. Be its boss. Own your shortcomings. Till you’re not hurting others, everything is okay. Having a bad day, look at all those pictures you’ve in your camera roll. Remind yourself of all those happy times. Be grateful for what you have because others might not have even that much. Feel privileged. This is where you’ll find peace. 

Contentment is not being carefree. Don’t be misguided. It doesn’t mean a state free of conflicts and anxiety & it also doesn’t mean indifference to others or situations. It just means a state of happiness that can be found in little things. It just means you accept all your shortcomings and circumstances and still choose to look beyond them because you deserve it. It just means WHO YOU ARE RIGHT NOW IS ENOUGH. Don’t Exert yourself. Life is SIMPLE, don’t complicate by thinking too much. It’s not about finding the answers, it’s about losing the questions. Just breathe.


I’m finding my way too, walk with me.

Till next time,

Xoxo.

F-O2-D at O2 


“So what should we order?”
Umm! Anything.

“What do you feel like eating?”

Anything good.

“Fine, I’m ordering a pizza!”

Okay, I’m a girl but Am I the only one who struggles like this before ordering? At the end of the day, it’s always a choice between pizza/pasta/Maggie/nachos/pav bhaji kind of popular dishes.
Of course, they are delicious but how about giving them a traditional twist!? How about trying something new? Bloggers meet was organized here and it was a gourmet experience to remember.

This place recreates the magic of streets of Paris and offers a range of fusion food. 

Pc – Himanshi Daryani

Spread over two floors, its interiors are as diverse as the food they serve. From creating an industrial atmosphere with mezzanine sitting to transporting you to some street cafe in Paris, this house turned cafe provides a warm, cozy, casual and lively Ambiance. From white Royal chairs to bright colored French bistro chairs and benches, this place has it all. There’s a green colored wall with a vertical garden, which is breathtakingly beautiful. There’s a giant clock that I couldn’t take my eyes off. Vibrant color combinations just add to its quirkiness.


Food is a universal language, and the Chef Shailendra Kekade, host of ‘Style Chef’ on channel food food, has recreated O2’s menu amalgamating traditional global cuisines, with strong indori influence. Yes, there’s jeeravan in popcorn tempura and shikanji in tres desi leches.

The concept of molecular gastronomy is comparatively new in Indore and O2 being a pioneer, is living up to its name. There are ‘never heard before,’ dishes on the menu that are appealing to eyes and delight to my palate.

We were served a variety of dishes, here are my favorites
ROCK CORN TEMPURA-


Spicy, crispy and light. Tempura is basically a Japanese dish where vegetables/seafood are dipped in batter and deep fried. As chef’s style is incorporating global ingredients with a Desi twist, here he has added jeeravan which makes these balls, amazeballs! These munchies are perfect to go along with a mocktail/cocktail & it’s dip which is sweet and spicy, perfectly compliments the dish. It was served with makhani mayo and kachumar.

Let’s call this dish jeeravan popcorn, okay!?
CORN CHOWDER PAAV WALA –


Chef has definitely outdone himself here. It’s thick & creamy. Corn Chowder is a popular American dish, and the twist by the chef is the usage of ‘bhutte ka kiss.’ He got this soup’s inspiration from our very own sarafa.


 It’s served in an edible bread bowl and it tastes as delicious as it looks. Chunks of corn just add to its beauty. You can feel the richness of the soup with every sip.

O2 SPECIAL MARGHERITA PIZZA –


Don’t expect mundane food items when the chef associated is Shailendra Kekade. This simple Margherita pizza will blow you away. It’s not a circle, but a rectangle divided into nine pieces making it easier to eat. It’s thin crust, and it has watermelon in its base. Cheese and watermelon give away a hard to resist combination. It’s different and it’s worth it. However, if you don’t like sweet much, try the pizza mentioned below.

DHABA KADAI CHICKEN PIZZA –


Again a thin crust and oh so good. Margherita was a bit on the sweeter side, & this is more on the spicy side which is pretty evident from its name. It’s a perfect blend of cheese and chili. I have a thing for new york style thin crust pizza and this didn’t disappoint.

SPINACH JALAPEÑO HUMMUS

I’m not big on healthy alternatives but this hummus made me go ummmmmmmmm. I irk at the name of spinach but this dish has changed my opinions, & I’m pretty sure will change yours too. It’s as good as it looks. Presentation gets full marks. It’s served with toasted garlic bread.

KULCHA BAR –



We were served three different kinds – bacon kulcha, Cheese Chilli Kulcha, & Matar Kulcha. 



Bacon Kulcha – I’m amazed why nobody thought of this before. It was heavenly & oh so heavy haha. I’m still craving for it. It’s a must try here. No words can interpret the experience and flavors of this dish. 



Cheese Chilli Kulcha & Matar Kulcha are vegetarians delight. Kulcha with cheese and jeez it was so delectable. I’m not so big on Matar, but these kulchas are worth a try. Traditional going global. I couldn’t try Sichuan chicken kulcha but my fellow blogger was raving about it.
MAIN COURSE –



I’ve always wondered why can’t we have a casual diner. Why do we have to dress up & go to a fancy hotel’s overpriced restaurant? This cafe offers the main course that’s soul filling, in a very quirky environment. This cafe da ville is a perfect place to have dinner, not just coffee. This place offers so much more.
MURGH MAKHANWALA – 


Nothing out of the box, it’s a traditional preparation that will satiate your soul. It’s served with roti, rice, and salad. Tender and succulent chicken is to die for. It’s creamy, yummy & quantity is sufficient to fill your tummy.

HYDERABADI CHICKEN KEEMA BIRYANI

This is again a favorite. It stands true to its origin – Hyderabad. Chicken Keema with aromatic basmati rice, garnished with caramelized onions makes this a pot of heaven. Nothing makes me happier than a good bowl of biryani, and this just elevated my mood.
They say to save the best for the last? Oh well, it stands true and you’ll know I’m right when you’ll see these DESSERTS


Blending scientific techniques with traditional recipes, with these desserts the chef has added another feather in his cap. 

And with this, a new era of food begins in Indore.
The menu has items like Red velvet Kulfi Block, Tres Desi leches, dahi bhalle Ki Kulfi, espresso pannacotta, Maghai paan pannacotta, chocolate chappanbhog, & sour cherry cheesecake.

TRES DESI LECHES –
 


Tres leches literally means three Milk & this is an indori style dessert with Ghevar at the bottom, ras malai in between and shikanji ice cream on top. The best part was the fact that we witnessed it’s making. It was a like a kid watching a magic trick. As I said, molecular gastronomy is new to Indore. Use of liquid nitrogen gives away an exotic feel. Freeze dried ras malai was pretty hard to Crack though haha. Nevertheless, it’s an experience in itself & one of a kind in Indore.

MAGHAI PAAN PANNACOTTA –


The after dinner sweetener gets a makeover here with liquid nitrogen. Paan pannacotta is molecular gastronomy at its best. Paan is frozen with liquid nitrogen (temperature = -195 degree and while preparing it, the chef warned us not to touch it out of curiosity haha!) & then it’s crushed into pieces and served over pannacotta which is an Italian dessert made with cream. Italy to Indore, this dish is worth every penny.

CHOCOLATE CHAPPAN BHOG – 


As I’ve made it pretty evident in my previous blogs, I’m not big on chocolates & yet again this dish had me craving for more. I didn’t get the chance to try it with my fellow bloggers, and after I heard people raving about it, I asked the chef If I can just have one little serving for tasting. In return, I was served half of what is actually served if you’ll order the dish and it was still huge. The twist is, I ate it all. All. Yes. Rum balls are to die for. Apart from the chocolate brownie, chocolate mousse and chocolate ice cream, it also had mini ras malai!! This dish is a must try.
With this, we come to an end of this review.

Pros
– It’s a late night cafe. Open till 2 am.

– Valet parking.

– Fusion dishes.

BOOKS  – cafe has a huge collection of books. Enjoy your reading quietly with a cup of coffee!

– Comfortable sitting arrangement.

– Location – situated in the heart of the city.

– Service is quick.

Detox water is available. 

– You can order via an iPad, you don’t need to call a writer.

– Beautiful interiors.

Live music – let your hair loose with the live band playing every Sunday.

– Exhibitions – a perfect platform to showcase & promote local talent. 

– Separate smoking zone.

– The best part is – THEY SERVE ALCOHOL ON SUNDAYS! So enjoy your drink with live music in this cozy cafe with sumptuous meals. What more can you ask for?

CONS –
– No wi-fi.

– Fusion dishes may not suit your palate so ask the waiter/chef about the dish before ordering.

My ratings –
Ambiance – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Food – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Value for money – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Presentation – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Service – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Overall – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 


Here’s a special thanks to the Chef Shailendra Kekade & Mr. Vicki Soni, for being such amazing hosts. I was so ecstatic to meet the style chef, and a conversation with him & I left the venue with a smile on my face. I’ll always remember his words, ‘indore se hi leke indore ko hi de raha hu!’ – when he told me that the inspiration for these fusion dishes came from sarafa and chappan! 


This place offers everything you can ask for. Chilling with your friends, to dining with your family, to reading your favorite book alone with a cup of coffee, to let your hair down on Sundays over sangria with live music, it’s a perfect venue with great menu. I’ll give this place four stars on five, recommending the dishes I’ve written above, especially the desserts. Thank me later!

Till next time,

Xoxo.

Veera Di Hatti 

It’s not a dhaba, it’s not a high end restaurant but if you love Punjabi food, this is where you need to go. Worth every penny! 

A bloggers meet was held here in association with Indori Zayka & I’m still spellbound with their hospitality. It’s a small outlet but I guarantee that one visit and it will become your adda. Homely environment and the food is amazeballs. 


Here’s what we were served – 


LASSI –


It was our welcome drink. Most places serve lassi that’s too thick that you’ve to eat it with a spoon rather than drinking it, but this lassi had the perfect consistency and yes, you can drink it! It’s worth mentioning here that I had 3 glasses! We were served in small glasses for the bloggers meet, these aren’t the glasses they’ll serve you when you order. Also, it’s just 50 INR/ glass.

MAKHMALI KEBABS – 


These kebabs are killer! A perfect combination of spicy and sweet. It had cottage cheese, chunks of cashews & mawa in the mix. For Rs 220/- per plate, it’s an ideal starter & is served with green chutney and onions.
PANEER ACHARI TIKKA – 

After a sweet spicy dish, this was the right thing to serve. Authentic achaari feels bruh! Right amount of spiciness & Uff the quantity is enough to satisfy your tummy and your soul. Paneer pieces are topped with slices of tomatoes, onions & capsicums & its served with curd based green chutney and onions.

8 pieces/plate for just 140 INR! 
MUSHROOM TIKKA – 


If you like mushrooms, you gotta try their Mushroom Tikka! A bit more on the spicy scale and grilled to perfection. Also, this beauty is available for just Rs. 120 and you’ll be served 8 pcs with green chutney and onions. 

RAJMA RICE –


Most awaited item on the list and it didn’t disappoint. Its like maa ke hath ke rajma chawal. Low on spices and high on taste. Rajmaaaaaaaaaaah! ❤️


It’s made by owners wife and when I complimented her on the dish she told me how she makes it while taking God’s name and that’s what adds to it’s charm. Oh well, I couldn’t agree more!!!!!
ALOO & PANEER KULCHA WITH CHOLE –


MY FAVORITE HERE! It was as good as it looks. It’s served with pyaaz chutney (with tamarind and ginger taking it to whole another level!) on the side and it perfectly compliments the spicy chole 😍 

Kulchas are crispy and filled with aloo mixes with spices. Uff! Ye toh jaan hi le gaye meri!!!

PANEER KULCHAS as the name suggests, had overdose of Paneer and it’s a MUST ORDER. 

Chole what i noticed, didn’t contain onions and were purely made by spices! Your visit to this place is incomplete without this dish! *drools*
DAL MAKHANI & LACCHA PARATHA –


Looking at those lacchas, I fell in love. Such beautiful layers, I’ve honestly never seen such a perfect laccha paratha before. Dal makhani was medium spicy and again, a favorite here. Although I was bit apprehensive about having dal with laccha paratha as I’m used to have it with rice, one bite and it all went away. Heavenly!!

My ratings – 

Taste – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Presentation – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Service – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Value for money – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ 

Overall – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5 

In the end, all I can say is – IT’S A MUST VISIT! Also, trust me when I say this – you will end up raving about it to others in conversations about food! 

GOOD OLD DAYS 

Take me back to the good old days. Here I’m not talking about the beautiful memories of my past, but this incredible restaurant in effotel, situated right next to Radisson.



Tired of spending weekends in same kind of bars? Here’s a quirky alternative. Good Old Days’s theme speaks volumes. It’s a small retro themed bar lounge. Comfortable, Cosy, Elegant and Dramatic. Dim lights, checkered walls section, old Hollywood movies posters, red sofas, illuminated floor (tiles which light up with different colors!), mirror ceilings, and of course, posters of the likes of Merlin Monroe, Elvis Presley, Che Guevara & Bob Marley bringing the good old days back.



I would like to thank Chef Thapa who hails from Nepal and is associated with Sayaji since 4 years and Indore Bloggers Association for making this meet happen.

We were served –
FILO WRAPS  

Filo or Phyllo is very thin covering usually used in pastries and it dates back to Ottoman empire. We were served a vegetarian deep fried filo wrap which was actually wanton wraps, filled with cheese and three kinds of bell papers. It’s a vegetarian delight.
Another highlight of this dish was it’s dipping – saffron mayo sauce. It’s distinguished garlic flavor gave the dish a beautiful twist.

CHARMOULA CRUSTED COTTAGE CHEESE –




Another dish to please vegetarians palate. Chef has definitely succeeded. It’s cottage cheese served with herbed rice and sautéed vegetables like broccoli and zucchini.
Dish is medium spicy and it’s sauce take away the cake. It’s served with barbecue mango sauce which is definitely a must try here.
Also, presentation gets 5/5.

MEXICAN RED  KIDNEY BEANS AND CORN QUESADILLA  –


Pc – Satyajeet David


Quesadillas is one of my favorites and this place doesn’t disappoint. Flat circle grilled tortilla with a stuffing of red kidney beans and corn. It was served with salsa sauce made with minced tomatoes and perfectly complimented the dish. Here, I would also like to mention that they are smaller than regular size.

CRUMBLED FISH  – 

Fish is marinated with lemon, garlic and parsley, coated with breadcrumbs and deep fried. Its boneless fillets of basa fish and is a must try here.
RUBIYAN MESHAWAI  – 


Pc – Satyajeet David


I’ve a new favorite!! Them prawns ❤️

Medium prawns with tail, perfectly grilled in Arabic spices will leave you wanting for more and more. It’s beauty lies in its simple preparation. Prawns are marinated in garlic & black pepper. It’s served with risotto rice in tomato sauce and saffron dip which is rich in garlic and butter. It’s a must try here.

DRINKS –



COCKTAILS

MARTINI


“Shaken, not stirred!” – James Bond’s iconic drink, this Martini is a must try. Instead of gin, they have used vodka but I really can’t complain. Garnished with olives and a small umbrella, staying true to its classic colors.
STRAWBERRY MOJITO 

It’s a proper ladies drink. Not too subtle, not too strong. Mint and strawberry complimented each other & it’s a treat to the eyes.

MUDSLICE  –

The moment I heard about BAILEYS cocktail, I was waiting for its serving. It looks like chocolate coffee especially due to chocolate syrup lining the glass. Sadly, bailey’s flavor is diminished by coconut and chocolate flavors. Avoid.

GIMLET  –

Pc – Satyajeet David

I unfortunately didn’t try this gin based cocktail. There were two glasses amongst ten bloggers, what do you expect?


COSMOPOLITAN


One of the best cosmopolitan I’ve tried in this city. I order cocktails because hard core strong drinks are not my thing. The bartender has beautifully managed to keep it not too sweet and not too strong and I really don’t think you can go wrong with cranberry and vodka. Mama Mia. We have a winner here.


MOCKTAILS


SHIRLEY TEMPLE


Too sweet. Strawberry syrup with ginger and lime and of course the lemonade.
VIRGIN COLADA  


This was definitely my favorite mocktail. Creamy coconut drink with pineapple, with a tint of vanilla and pineapple. A must try here.

My ratings

Taste – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Presentation – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Drinks – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Service – ⭐️ ⭐️

Value for money – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

Ambiance – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Overall – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5

Address: Effotel Hotel, Plot No. 10-C/ C.A., Scheme No. 94, Sector C Indore, Indore.

Open time: 1 pm to 11:30 pm

In the end, I just wanna say that this is a place to spend some quality time with your friends or lover over drinks. They usually play 90’s pop music in the background, adding to its theme. Seating arrangement is comfortable. I’m definitely gonna visit again & so should you.

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The 78 Boulevard 

I recently attended their new menu launch with my fellow bloggers at INDORE Bloggers Association & team Indori Zayka.

The name intrigued me, hence my first question to the owner was – why? Turns out, it’s because of the beautiful street outside this bistro cafe and 78 as it’s situated in Scheme 78, Vijay Nagar.

Not just the name, a lot of thought has been put into its interesting interiors too. The moment I entered this place, I was mesmerized with its theme. “Le le re selfie le le re!” 🎵 Yes, this place is a treat for selfie lovers like me.

Its theme is vintage new york style with a cosmopolitan vibe. I’ve never seen an apter industrial decor in Indore. Antiques on the weathered brick walls make for a beautiful rustic & mature interior. Dim lights just add to the feels. Wooden tables, colorful chairs, benches and sofas on a cemented floor completes the whole look. The credit for this goes to the co-owner and interior designer Miss. Anushri Jain.


📷 – burrp (link below!)




This is by far the best-themed restaurant in Indore. 
The V in bouleVard stands for Vegetables. Yes, it’s a 100% VEGETARIAN bistro & this place serves alcohol on weekends. If this isn’t a good news, then maybe the fact that drinks aren’t overpriced will be soothing to your ears.
It’s one of the first few restaurants to introduce the event culture in Indore. It not only hosts cooking workshops, but also meddles with open mic events (free entry for all! Best platform to feature local talent!!) twice a month, rock concerts, underground music nights, & yes, bringing a dose of STAND UP COMEDY shows featuring best of the best in India – Sorabh pant, Abish Mathew, Kanan Gill, Sahil Shah, Sapan Verma, Varun Thakur, Atul Khatri, Kunal Rao & Abhishek Upmanyu. 

These events are guaranteed to put you in a mood for riotous revelry. Oh yes, Rock and roll baby!!!

Don’t lose heart if you couldn’t attend Kanan Gill on the house, here’s another one you wouldn’t want to miss – 

In a Kamra with Kunal Kamra! #Sorrynotsorry 

Tickets available on bookmyshow & at the 78 Boulevard for Rs. 800/-

More on the event in my next blog. Don’t miss it! 

They usually play deep house in the background, which is a subgenre of house music, and a youth’s favorite.

A bistro is a place that serves a quick and simple meal at moderate prices & living true to its bistro cafe title, they have introduced a ‘happy hour menu’ that runs from 11 am to 6 pm. When asked about this special menu, Anushri says, “the items are more for students and we serve cafe style food like sandwiches, burgers, combos etc. The catch is that the entire menu is under Rs.99. Pocket-friendly for student crowd.”
Wait wait, don’t rush to this place just yet. Do it after reading the whole review! Okay?
Now let’s get to the part for which we were invited for. Their new menu launch!!
I was beyond excited. So will you be, once you see this place!
The menu is as quirky & varied as it’s interiors. Their philosophy is to have, ‘something for everyone.’ Chinese, Mediterranean, Italian, Spanish, Russian, Burmese, Indian and Thai, they serve it all.



We were welcomed with a mocktail called ‘sex on the beach!’ Since it wasn’t on the menu, we all started guessing its contents! It was like playing ‘guess what?’ game. Just like classic sex on the beach – virgin, it had cranberry & orange juice with a dollop of peach syrup. Rimmed with salt & garnished with mint leaves & lemon. A beautiful warm day & this tangy fruity mocktail as a welcome drink. Couldn’t have asked for anything better.




CREAM OF PEAS –



I had a sore throat so this soup came like a blessing. I can totally call it my favorite amongst all the dishes I tasted that day. The twist was in its presentation, it was served in a shot glass with breadstick on top. SHOT SHOT baby. One sip and you’ll fall in love with its taste and creamy texture. Its vibrant green color is it’s another highlight. It’s a treat for your eyes and palate.

Price – Rs. 180/-

Verdict – must have.
FATTOUSH SALAD –



Okay, I’m not big on salads but this didn’t disappoint. Fattoush salad is a Mediterranean dish & it’s big on vegetables. Lettuce, tomato, radish, bell peppers, parsley, you name it, this had it. Tossed in lemon, garlic & oregano dressing giving it a sour taste. A perfect starter for health conscious people. Fried pita bread tasted like namak pare & Uff that crisp gave it the oomph factor.

Price – Rs. 220/-

Verdict – Do try. Less on calories, big on taste. Although, if you’re not a salad person & don’t like to experiment, avoid this.

CAPRESE SALAD – 


It’s a simple Italian salad, typically made of fresh mozzarella, tomatoes & basil. However, mozzarella the chef used here wasn’t really fresh, but it did taste good. The hero of this dish is the honey balsamic dressing. It’s sweet and tangy & it can be regarded as a perfect salad dressing. Its presentation gets full marks & who says no to cheese?

Fun fact – this dish has these ingredients so that it will resemble the Italian flag which has red, white & green color.

Price – Rs. 240/-

Verdict – Do try.

DIMSUMS –


This restaurant doesn’t have bright lights because of it dim sum. This Taiwanese dish is my favorite. Looking at dim sum, I got all excited. Served in steamer baskets and oh so colorful. However, my excitement was short lived. It had a filling of shredded cabbage & carrots & they were steamed, not fried hence making it a healthy choice. Although it was more on the spicy side.

Price – Rs. 240/-

Verdict – Avoid.

THAI SPRING ROLLS – 


Thai spring rolls had capsicum, cabbage, & carrots infused with Thai flavors. It’s crispy & if you like lemongrass, this is for you. However, I found it to be pretty mundane.

It’s served with Thai sweet chili sauce, & to be honest, it made normal Thai spring rolls, extraordinary.

Price – Rs. 260/-

Verdict – can be avoided.

EMPANADAS – 


You can never go wrong with a combination of corn and cheese. First look, and I shouted – ye to ghujiya hai! Lol. Empanadas are Spanish appetizers & are traditionally baked/Fried. This place serves the baked version with a filling of potatoes, corn, onions, garlic & mozzarella cheese. I totally loved it. It’s served with sweet chili sauce, which to be honest was an irresistible combination.

Price – Rs. 240/-

Verdict – Do try.

CHEESE FONDUE PLATTER –


It’s a cheese lover dream. Colorful fondue prongs & a small lamp below the fondue pot were very appealing to my eyes. It’s said there are 246 varieties of cheese in France alone, and this dish had a beautiful amalgamation of three of them. This dripping, melting, yummy cheese fondue is served with grilled veggies and bread croutons.

To be honest, I think it will taste even better on a rainy day.

I wish they also had a cranberry walnut loaf in the pattern. That would have been majestic.

Using the fondue prongs, dip the bread cubes/veggies into the cheese and experience the magic.

Price – Rs. 500/-

Verdict – worth it.
TANDOORI PLATTER – 


Fir bhi dil hai hindustani. Finally an Indian dish.

This platter had Paneer Tikka, makkai seekh kebabs, bharwan achaari aloo, tandoor ke phool (cauliflower!) and shabnam ke moti (mushrooms!)

And the winner is – bharwan achaari aloo. It’s lip smacking good. If you love mushrooms, you’ll enjoy shabnam ke moti too.

Price – Rs. 500/-

Verdict – if you’re a tandoor fan, this dish is for you. Although I think with this price range, you’ll get better options.

NAANZA –


A big NAA NAA to NAAnza from my side. It’s basically a NAAN BREAD SPICY PIZZA. The highlight of this dish is house style basil pesto sauce & it contains salad greens, roasted tomatoes, toasted nuts and mozzarella cheese with a drizzle of balsamic glaze. However, even balsamic glaze couldn’t save it. The crust was thin but chewy. Also, this pizza was more on the sweeter side.

Price – Rs. 360/-

Verdict – Avoid.

RATATOUILLE –


Well, this dish reminds me of that cute little rodent chef. Only 90s kids will remember him. It’s a French dish that originated in Nice & has Rice. A fresh medley of vegetables like tomatoes, onions, eggplant, zucchini, bell peppers & topped with herbs infused tomato sauce. The texture of the vegetables are creamy, and the sauce is rich, but it still lacks any real depth of flavor.

Price – Rs. 340/-

Verdict – if you like authentic French food, this is for you but if you’re a chatora indori like me, avoid ordering this.

STROGANOFF – 


It’s a Russian delicacy. Another dish that stands out. Rice is served with a consomme of exotic vegetables, sour cream, and mustard. It’s delicious and height of luxury. It’s creamy and cheesy. Its traditional version is served with beef and given the cow vigilantes, even writing about beef is scaring me! However, it’s a 100% vegetarian restaurant & they have succeeded in making it an eight on a delicious meter. You can ask for flat pasta instead of Rice.

Price – Rs. 380/-

Verdict – worth a try.
KHOW SUEY –


I can never appreciate this Burmese dish as I’m not big on coconut and although I saw my fellow bloggers taking a dig at its pungent taste, I somehow liked it. Perfectly blending in my taste buds with its vibrant flavors, this dish has noodles and vegetable curry made with coconut milk, medium spicy & served with contrasting condiments of spices, cashew nuts, fried onions, fried garlic, spring onions and zest of lemon. My favorite being fried onions & peanuts. These condiments gives away a unique flavor to the dish. It’s an Indian version of this Burmese dish, so if you’re a fan of authentic Khow Suey, I’ll suggest you to ignore it.

Price – Rs. 380/-

Verdict – with this price range, I’ll suggest you to try other things then experimenting with Khow Suey.
DUM BIRYANI –


Biryani is my go to dish and the chef didn’t disappoint here. It gets its flavor and aroma as its cooked on slow fire or dum. Well if you’re a hard core non vegetarian like me, you’ll think twice before ordering this royal dish but the moment its aroma reaches you, all your doubts will vanish away. A medley of basmati rice, vegetables, saffron, whole spices, are slow cooked to perfection in dum pukht style. It’s served with plain curd and this dish will surely blow your mind and taste buds away.

Price – Rs.300/-

Verdict – must have.

CHOCOLATE FONDUE WITH ASSORTED DIPPERS –


A chocolate lover’s delight, this dessert is served with array of DIPPERS like mini brownie bites, waffle sticks, kiwi, bananas and different flavors of mini ice cream balls. Dark melted chocolate alongside cream makes for an irresistible dessert.

Price – Rs.500/-

Verdict – if you love chocolates, this is a perfect dessert to end your meal.


GULAB JAMUN LEMON CHEESECAKE –

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This is the cheesecake I want after dinner. It remains true to its description which goes like – “This rich sweet-tart is made with cream, Philadelphia soft cheese, and a zest of lemon waver a crumbled biscuit base bursting with delicate flavor and sweetness of Gulab Jamun.”

It’s sweet, not too sweet & the lemon brings out the natural tartness of the cheesecake. It’s smooth and creamy & trust me, one bite of those, & you too will sound like Meg Ryan in that famous “When Harry Met Sally” deli scene.

Price – Rs.320/-

Verdict – must have.

My ratings –
Taste – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5
Presentation – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Service – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Value for money – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
Ambiance – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5
Overall – ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️.5
Address: Gf 69, Opposite Prestige College, Vijay Nagar, Scheme 78 Indore.
Open time: 11 am to 11:30 pm

In short, this cafe is an experience in itself. From local to global, I loved their new menu. Happy hour menu is a value for money. Events like rock concerts and stand up comedy are like a cherry on the cake.

 

 

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Let’s talk about Depression & Why is it still a taboo?

Health is defined as, “a state of complete physical, MENTAL, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease.”

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects the body, mind & behavior that often manifests by feelings of sadness, anger, hopelessness & pessimism.


According to WHO, more than 350 million people are suffering from depression worldwide, that’s more than the population of Russia & Bangladesh combined. It’s the leading cause of disability & close to 800,000 people commits suicide to get out of depression, and yet it’s still so hard to talk about it publicly. Why? It’s 2017, not 17th century. Even Gay marriages are legal in so many parts of the world, why is it a shame to talk about depression then?


We all suffer from mood swings, we all go through highs and lows in our lives but with some people, this ‘low’ period is prolonged to an extent where it affects how you feel, think & handle your day to day activities like your work, sleeping habits & eating.

It has been estimated that one in four people in the world will be affected by mental or neurological disorders at some point in their lives. 

Depression is a mood order characterized by several symptoms like – 





Sadness, hopelessness, anxiety, guilt, self-loathing just won’t go away. You can’t control your thoughts anymore. You are screaming inside but you’re smiling outside because you don’t want others to look at you the way you look at yourself. You lose interest in things that you used to love. You’re irritable, restless & tired all the time. There’s an emptiness that can’t be filled. 





Sounds familiar?




We all have been there at some point or other, maybe not to this degree but let’s just say, to a milder version of this.

Depression occurs due to chemical imbalance.


Amygdala, a part of the limbic system is responsible for emotions like anger, pleasure, sorrow, fear, and sexual arousal. It becomes hyperactive in depression & responds excessively to negative events. Amygdala is connected to the medial frontal cortex, nucleus accumbens, hippocampus & the insula – part of the brain which hones the physiological & behavioral response to emotional stimuli.



If you wanna read more about it, check this article out – http://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/what-causes-depression




Mental illness changes your perceptions on things and if allowed it will make you feel so alone & vulnerable. It’s like living life on what if’s.

One of my friends was severely depressed. She kept on canceling plans for almost 2 months, I’m amazed she didn’t run out of excuses. One day we decided to surprise her. I don’t know if she was surprised, but we were definitely shocked. She had lost 10kg weight.

‘I want to eat, I’m hungry but I just don’t feel like it.’ 

‘Please leave me alone!’
‘I am fine!’
‘Maybe I deserve this!’
I’m not mad, I won’t go to a psychiatrist!’
It’s just a phase when things will be sorted, it will go away!’

NO, IT WON’T AND NO THERE IS NO ESCAPE FROM THIS PHASE TILL YOU’RE WILLING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. REASONS WILL CHANGE, SITUATION WON’T.




Looking at her was still okay, but I won’t forget her mom’s face. That feeling of helplessness. 


She didn’t want to visit a psychiatrist but we pushed her & although she hated us for this but once the treatment began, she was thankful and we were happy. We can see the change in her.

She didn’t reach that stage in one day. It was a long process. Wouldn’t it have been better if she had just shared her feelings with us right at the start?

I was furious. I asked her – Why didn’t you reach out?

She said she did.

Her boyfriend said, ‘stop this drama.’
   Stop this drama!’ – what the hell! If you can’t understand her, at least don’t add to her issues. 

Her other friend said, ‘let’s go out, you’ll feel better!’

    Of course, you will feel better when you’re out with your friends, but what happens when you come home and you’re all alone with those crazy thoughts?

Going out won’t help till you’re ready to face your situation instead of running away from it.

She said, ‘that time, it felt easier to push you guys away rather than facing the situation. I assumed you won’t understand. I’m sorry for doubting you & thanks for being there.”

The feeling that your loved ones won’t understand, along with the fear of  social stigma, prevents people from seeking the treatment.






I’ve been depressed, not to an extent she was but yes I was there too. Aren’t we all are?

First we are worried about school grades, then about college admissions, then college grades, then job, then promotion, & also, add broken heart into the mix. See, reasons changed but situation didn’t. 

Nothing is happening in our life the way we want it to be. Life is not fair & it won’t ever be. Stop asking yourself, ‘Why me?’ 

We all face challenges but when there’s no one to support you through it, you won’t even realise when normal sadness will change to clinical depression. Struggling at jobs or break ups, anything can lead to depression if you give up. 

Accept it, embrace it, face it. Talk about it. 

We think we will be okay once the situation change. WE START JUSTIFYING OUR STATE BECAUSE WE WON’T ACCEPT THAT WE NEED HELP. WHY? Because of – ‘what will people say?’ We live in a society and society thinks mental illness is equivalent to insanity. Will society label people like us?


This is the REASON I wanted to write this post. THERE’S NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF. Have pride in your strength and compassion in your struggles. Talk. Nearly 57 million Indians suffer from depression, YOU AREN’T ALONE.
Few words of encouragement & love can do wonders.
If not, there’s always Therapy & medicines. Try meditation. Try exercise. Running is my way of telling my brain to shut the fuck up. Read a book. Make a list of all those things and people you are grateful for. Close your eyes and try to remember your happiest memory. Listen to music. Go offline or talk about your issues online. Seek help.

Figure out your issues and try solving them, and if you can’t solve it, accept it. You won’t ever get everything in your life and it’s okay. Have faith in yourself and embrace your weakness just like you do with your strengths. Keep the negative people away from your life. Don’t indulge in drugs to ease your pain. Sharing and caring is the best solutionSuicide is not. It will just pass away your pain to your loved ones.





According to WHO, ‘Suicide occurs throughout the lifespan and was the second leading cause of death among 15-29-year-olds globally in 2015,’ 78% of global suicides occurred in low- and middle-income countries in 2015.’ DO YOU SEE A PATTERN HERE? Maybe it’s because of lack of awareness and seeking help is considered a social stigma. “The stigma surrounding mental illness, including depression, remains a barrier to people seeking help throughout the world,” according to WHO. 

India accounted for the highest estimated number of suicides in the world in 2012, according to a WHO report published in 2014 which found that one person commits suicide every 40 seconds globally.
“Depression is also the leading cause of disability worldwide and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.” – WHO.
Maybe it’s time to change the thinking? Spread awareness. Be kind to people, you never know what they are going through. Even a slight remark on social media can push them off the edge. Be careful what you say. 

 ‘I want to tell my countrymen that depression is not incurable. The first mantra is the expression of depression instead of its suppression.’ – Prime Minister Narendra Modi.
A Mental Healthcare Bill decriminalizing suicide attempt is passed by Parliament & this is just a baby step in accepting that they are not criminals, they just need help. We still have miles to go.


On the occasion of World health Day – 7 April 2017 ‘ WHO has launched a one-year global campaign on depression – LET’S TALK. http://www.who.int/campaigns/world-health-day/2017/en/

It’s time for a change. If my post can change even one orthodox opinion on depression, I’ll take it as an achievement.

To all of you beautiful people out there, if you’ve survived depression – kudos! To all those who are currently seeking help – proud of you. To all of you, who are currently facing such symptoms – please reach out & break this chain of solitude & stigma because you’re not alone. We are here for you. 

Let’s talk. Share your experiences and suggestions with me. We are in this together.


Sources – 

For data – 

1. http://www.who.int/mental_health/management/depression/wfmh_paper_depression_wmhd_2012.pdf

2. http://www.healthline.com/health/depression/facts-statistics-infographic

3. http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs369/en/

4. https://www.google.co.in/amp/www.livemint.com/Specials/Ysja8QtaVqjRpKg7eAFJfL/Over-5-crore-people-suffer-from-depression-in-India-WHO.html%3Ffacet%3Damp%26utm_source%3Dgoogleamp%26utm_medium%3Dreferral%26utm_campaign%3Dgoogleamp