The title seems preachy, right?

The best part about life is, our ability to learn & adapt. So, here’s what I have learnt so far (oh yes, I’ve certainly made a lot of mistakes for learning these! Not that I regret them *wink wink*)

Lesson #1.
Learn to be happy in what you have. Don’t look for happiness in other people, your career, or in ‘things’ for that matter. Look inside. It’s deep within you. That’s where you’ll find happiness.

Lesson #2.
Don’t leave something good, to pursue better.
You might end up losing both. Stay clear about your priorities.

Lesson #3.
If it’s making you happy, don’t question it.
Life is short. Make good use of it.

Lesson #4.
Be content with yourself.
This doesn’t mean you stop trying for that promotion you have been working for, it simply means. .maintain your calm while working for it. Better results guaranteed.

Lesson #5.
Don’t give up after a failure.
Guess what? Everybody fails. Isn’t a big deal. Failing at something doesn’t make you a failure, quitting it certainly does.

Lesson #6.
Be fearless.
Don’t worry about what your future holds. Fear is the demon that’s holding you back. You know that the ‘fear’ is real, when it’s holding you back to do something you want to do.

Lesson #7.
Karma is real. Believe in it.
What you give is what you get.
When you’re good to others, others will be good to you. Unless they are a**holes, in which case, ignore them rather than becoming like them. Also, when you hurt others, somewhere down the line. .you’ll get the taste of your own medicine. So, be careful.

Lesson #8.
Don’t try to get everyone to like you.
Because darling, everyone is different. .so no matter how good you are, it’s not necessary that they will end up liking you. It also takes a lot if efforts. Besides, you’ll lose your essence while trying to please others.

Lesson #9.
Don’t let others opinions be your reality. Don’t waste your time thinking what they might think if you do this and that. Do whatever makes you happy. Simple.

Lesson #10.
Steer clear of people with negative vibes.
You are what your company is. If you’re in a group of people constantly pulling you down, change your circle. You should be with people who will support you in moving forward.

Lesson #11.
Always stand up for yourself.
Because if you won’t, why anyone else will? It’s your battle, fight it.

Lesson #12.
Take care of your health.
Your body is your temple. For goodness sake, take good care of it. Go for a walk or jog everyday. Take fitness challenges to motivate yourself. A sound body leads to sound mind which in turn leads to calmness. And that my friend, is very important.

Lesson #13.
Don’t over indulge in Internet.
You have a life before Internet,  don’t forget it. Don’t be consumed by the illusion of social media. Also, Google won’t tell you how to make friends.

Lesson #14.
It’s not the end of the world.
That relationship which ended badly, that career setback, those low grades. .don’t let anything depress you. The feeling that nothing will work for you ever again is a myth. It will. Give it sometime honey. Give it sometime.

Lesson #15.
Anger is your enemy.
It’s not good. Not for you and not for your loved ones.

“Boredom, anger, sadness, or fear are not ‘yours,’ not personal. They are the conditions of human mind. They come and go. Nothing that comes and goes is you.” – Eckhart Tolle.

Lesson #16.
Change is a law of nature. Accept it.
Don’t be scared. It’s not always bad.

Lesson #17.
Nothing is permanent.
Nothing is, really. If you’re miserable, it won’t last long. If you’re ecstatic, it won’t last either. So, don’t panic when things won’t work out your way. Also, don’t lose yourself in extreme happiness. Maintain that common ground.

Lesson #18.
Don’t change others, change yourself. Adapt. You won’t have your way always. In fact, most of the times.

Lesson #19.
Don’t compare yourself with others.
For good or bad, comparison is always a bad idea. The key to happiness is accepting the fact that some people have it better. Concentrate on your happiness and your progress, not others.

Lesson #20.
Work hard.
Nothing in this life comes easy. You want something, work for it.

Lesson #21.
Keep it simple.
Life is simple yet we are hell bent on complicating it. Stop.

Lesson #22.
Don’t do it for them, do it for yourself. If you won’t forgive and let go, you’ll keep on sulking on it.

Lesson #23.
Stop over thinking.
You will make up the problems which didn’t even exist before. Don’t do that to yourself. Breathe.

Lesson #24.
Be kind.
You can never know what that certain person is going through. One kind gesture might make things better for them.

Lesson #25.
Self reflection is good, self deception is not.

Lesson #26.
Life isn’t fair.
Accept it. Sometimes, good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people. No particular reason behind it. The sooner you accept this simple fact and stop expecting, the sooner you will grow.

Lesson #27.
Set your priorities.

Lesson #28.
Read. Write. Be artistic.
Always have a hobby. Always. It can be anything.

Lesson #29.

Lesson #30.
Inspire others.
Trust me, it feels good.

Lesson #31.
Be a good listener.
If you’re friend is cribbing about something, don’t start advising her. Do that eventually. But let her Vent out first. Sometimes, all we need is someone who will listen to us. Also, a Hug doesn’t harm.

Lesson #32.
Not everyone needs to know everything about you.

Lesson #33.
Family and friends matters.
Don’t ignore them. Tell them how much they mean to you, every now and then.

Lesson #34.
Keep your dreams alive, but don’t day dream for life.

Lesson #35.
Have some patience.
I’m impatient, and it has got me in trouble zillion times. That’s why I’m saying. .have patience. Learn to wait.

Lesson #36.
Stay focused.

Lesson #37.
Let go.
Most difficult thing to do indeed. If it’s making you sad, let it go. It takes more courage than holding on. I know I know, it’s easier said than done. But as my mom always say, “try try till you succeed!” There’s a fine balance between honoring the past and losing yourself in it.

Lesson #38.
Don’t be a judgemental prick.
Everyone is different and are brought up in different situations. It’s good to have opinions, it’s bad to be judgemental about it. Accept people the way they are.

Lesson #39.
You are a human being, not a human doing.
I read these lines somewhere, and they are stuck in my mind. In today’s rush, we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just being.

Lesson #40.
Keep your ego aside.
Self respect is good, ego isn’t. Be smart enough to know the difference.

Lesson 41.
Don’t get addicted.
Drinking, & smoking are okay. Addiction is not. Everything when done within limits, is fine.

Lesson 42.
Stop worrying.
I don’t remember a single time when being ‘worried’ has been productive for me.

Lesson #43.
Pain is real and painkillers won’t help.
But guess what? Time heals everything. You will be fine. Just hang in there.

Lesson #44.
Stop complaining.
You’re not a victim. Either leave the situation, accept it or change it. Don’t complain. You’re better than that.

Lesson #44.
Live in the present, not sulking about the past or worrying about the future.
Live in the moments, not in memories.

Lesson #45.
People will leave you. But guess what? It’s perfectly okay. You will learn to survive without them, maybe not now. .but someday.

Lesson #46.
Loving yourself is the beginning of a life long romance.
You can never really love anyone, if you aren’t in love with yourself.

Lesson #47.
Learn to live alone.
Spend time with yourself. Solitude. Enjoy your company. Cook, watch TV, read.

Lesson #48.
Break ups doesn’t mean that your partner was a Satan. Sometimes, most of the times, two good people can not make it through time. It’s okay. Don’t blame them or yourself. It wasn’t your fault or theirs for that matter. Don’t be hard on yourself.

Lesson #49.
Stay optimistic.
There will be times when it won’t be easy, but don’t lose hope. Although, i always say ‘hope’ is a dangerous word.

Lesson #50.
There’s nothing beautiful than making connections with people, & touching their lives.

Ah! I didn’t intend the list to be this long! Haha!!
The biggest problem with us is, we think we know everything. .We are so consumed in ourselves that we might even ignore a good advice. .I’m sure, few of you might be thinking. .”what a nonsense post! We already know all this.” Well if you’re happy and content, I’m really sorry you had to read this, but if you’re not. .please read again and relate. We all have common problems, in one form or another. It’s how we tackle them defines us.
What consumes our mind, controls our life. Don’t let your insecurities hold you back. Time will get the best of you one day.
Don’t try to control it, accept and enjoy. Life is way too short to be wasted upon people who don’t deserve you and unpleasant situations.
Nothing significant ever happens, until a pattern is broken. (Source unknown)
I’m still learning, walk with me ❤


78 Comments Add yours

  1. luckyjc007 says:

    Excellent list.

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  2. Thank you! Appreciate it ☺️

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Shitijsharma says:

    that’s pretty accurate 😀
    Lesson #51 – People do and say a lot of things just to be in conformity with whatever preconceived notion it is that they believe they must meet…you have a brain, use it

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  4. Haha. That’s pretty accurate too 😀

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  5. rajivbakshi says:

    I loved your #journey of list how to be happy . While reading , I thought the list will reach 100 . You tell not to do much internet , but it took me half an hour to read it & will take years to follow . The best part was I love your #boyfriend . I don’t know , probably I googled you to find his name . Hugs from Indie Author of : Journey from Guwahati to Machhiwara . Keep this as number 51 . See what I wrote at 63 : what’s happiness 🙂

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  6. I’m so sorry! I wanted to keep it short but would have been incomplete then. I’m glad you read it! Thank you so much Rajiv sir!! What did Google say? 😀

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  7. rajivbakshi says:

    Will tell his name , after you read my Book . Would love to see you Review my Book from an awesome Blogger . Then they say that English is our second language .

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  8. Will definitely do that! Share the link at Revaparihar@gmail.com 🙂
    And I’m sure, it’s gonna be worth it 😄

    Liked by 1 person

  9. Vivek says:

    Well taught and well Learnt!
    I wonder you took some heck of a time enlisting these!

    Liked by 2 people

  10. THREE HOURS! I thought I’ll just start and then sleep and continue tomorrow. .but then I completed this. Turned out to be bigger than I expected 😂
    P.S – thank you! 😄

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  11. rajivbakshi says:

    I am no Geek 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  12. Vera says:

    Especially love #2 & #3. I’m learning them ❤

    Liked by 2 people

  13. Aye! Thank you for reading. xo


  14. Miriam says:

    What a brilliant list. It’s the way I try and live my life but sometimes it’s good to have reminders. To see it written in black and white. Lovely to meet you here. You have a beautiful blog. Cheers!

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  15. Thank you so much! Happy to connect 💕

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  16. Miriam says:

    Absolutely! 🙂

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  17. Nadine says:

    Those are valuable lessons, thank you =)

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  18. rajivbakshi says:

    Reva Ji , mail sent to you , regarding the Book . Please do reply via mail , when you order the Book .

    Liked by 1 person

  19. kmankata says:

    Wow! This is beautiful. Can I print and paste it in my room? Need these reminders


  20. Sure thing 😄

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  21. Thank you so much 💕

    Liked by 1 person

  22. Nadine says:

    You’re welcome =)

    Liked by 1 person

  23. I was about to ask you for your fb page for the blog and I saw that post on social media! 😀

    Liked by 1 person

  24. Nadine says:

    lol yeah I don’t have one, I’m outdated 😀

    Liked by 1 person

  25. Erika Kind says:

    Awesome list! My compliment! Like a manual we should read daily!

    Liked by 1 person

  26. Keith says:

    Great lessons for us all. I view Karma as being more in tune with your environment and being able to recognize and seize opportunity.

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  27. Imran Ali says:

    Sing to me in the silence of your heart and I will rise up to hear your triumphant song.

    Liked by 1 person

  28. theonlysup says:

    Wonderful. The best I read today. I love the facts about setting our priorities. 20+ tips and great. I will take one at a time .. Keep sharing

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  29. That’s beautiful! 😄

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  30. Thanks for a wonderful comment Keith! 😄


  31. Imran Ali says:

    Thanks !

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  32. Imran Ali says:


    OK Reva
    Thank you once again.
    Sounds good

    Liked by 1 person

  33. I didn’t get it?


  34. Thanks Erika! Coming from you, means a lot! You know I love your blog 😄 thank you again 💕

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  35. Stay outdated 😀


  36. Erika Kind says:

    I feel honored by you saying this. Thank you! But I am really impressed by the many points and the short but insightful explanation! Awesome!

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  37. Imran Ali says:

    You have to break free from old patterns of thinking, if you wish to see a new world dawn on the horizon of your mind.

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  38. These are excellent lessons.. We are here upon Planet Earth to learn.. You have a lovely blog also… I hope you are enjoying a beautiful day… Sue

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  39. Hemangini says:

    Nothing significant ever happens, until a pattern is broken. totally true and once a person is beyong that pattern, life is much beautiful and has a lot more to offer then usual. Wonderful post

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  40. Imran Ali says:

    You must cleanse yourself daily from the dirt of negativity, if you wish to progress unharmed down the road of life.

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  41. Love your list. I will pose a challenge to #2 “Don’t leave something good to pursue better.” On a certain level, this reinforces the concept “don’t try something new because it may result badly.” In other words, we may be better ONLY “living INSIDE the box.” This doesn’t mean abandon good judgement and act recklessly. We need to find a balance between our comfort zone and our desire to grow and develop as individuals.
    Very good post!

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  42. Somya yadav says:

    Oh my, I didn’t know you were such a ‘deep’ person. I absolutely loved your list. You were always this jovial person, not that you arent now. I am sure you must faced many ups and downs since you learned so many lessons. Love you, cannot wait to meet you! (I hope we do meet someday considering we live in the same city :P).
    Also I wish you could check out my blog too. 💟

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  43. avinamdar says:

    Wonderful list, this should’ve been titled not lessons rather The Directory for Life ! Cheers 🙂

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  44. rajivbakshi says:

    Hi Reva . It’s just a reminder call for you . Whether you got time to have a DEKHO at my Book . Wish you could read & suggest my Book : Journey from Guwahati to Machhiwara , entering a new library almost every alternate day .

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  45. I’m so glad you liked it! Thank you 💕


  46. I’m glad you liked it! I didn’t mean it that way. .I meant on a personal level. About relationships perhaps. Progress, be ambitious. .but never let go of your roots! Thanks for the wonderful comment 😄

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  47. Aww honey! I sure will! Meet me soon! How about a movie tmrw?

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  48. Thank you for reading 😄

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  49. Hey I’m sorry, not yet. Lemme order it tmrw 😄

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  50. This is part of the fun of blogging. It shows perspectives from other people that bring new light to our thinking.
    Keep up the good work.

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  51. rajivbakshi says:

    No problem . Book is going to stay for ever . Do message when order done . Next instructions after wards .


  52. Can’t agree more!! 😄

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  53. loverhater99 says:

    Exactly da bm . 👌

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  54. loverhater99 says:

    bomb* 😀 EXCELLENT in a sense.


  55. Nam H Nguyen says:

    A great list, but of course – like all similar lists situational and context dependant.

    I particularly liked the one about steer clear from people with negative vibes. That one rings true in almost every situation!


  56. You have a lovely blog too, and this article is so uplifting! I would like to get to know you more through your blog. 🙂

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  57. I’m so glad you liked it ❣️ check out happiness, that’s closest to my heart 😄


  58. Sure, I will. Will do a binge read 😀

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  59. Already excited to hear from you 😁

    Liked by 1 person

  60. jorgerkdo says:

    Really good list ! 🙂 very valuable , I need to keep a lot of these in mind all the time!

    Liked by 1 person

  61. Well.
    amazing list.

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